Te Amo Playa Azul I Love You Two – A Plural Wedding of Ecosexual Love


This plural wedding of ecosexual love will be the second of its kind in the Caribbean.  Mark your calendars for Saturday, January 30, 2016.  The event is designed to guide participants in experiencing the earth as the lover we all share, and to practice the love that reaches beyond limitations to embrace all of life as a partner with equal rights.  The daylong ritual one the magic beach of Playa Azul, culminates in an inclusive wedding ceremony with the beach as the bride all participating “spice” share.

The event was a memorable success on its first edition, which called for a return.  Check PAILY-BeachLover2the photos and memories.  Read the detailed description of its template.

The event is free of charge and open to the public. Space is limited to save your spot early. Let us know you are coming by email at serena.anderlini@gmail.com, or mark yourself as attending on the Facebook event.

What Rituals Will Help Us Bond with the Partner We All Share?  TAPAILY2-FLIER-2016

Program – Te Amo Playa Azul I Love You Two
When: January 30, 2016, 11 AM 8 PM
Where: Playa Azul, Punta Arenas, Carretera 102, Km 11.6, Joyuda, Cabo Rojo.

This is our basic program for the day:

11 am: Meet and Greet on Playa Azul, Music, Contact Dance
12 noon: Workshops
1. Know and Love the Ecosystem Called Thyself
2. Know and Love your Most Compersive Lover: Earth
3. Know and Love those Who Share this Lover with You: Humankind

Each workshop is about 75 minutes, including teaching, translation, practice, and PAILY10-LoveThyself1PAILY13-LoveHumankind2 debriefing. If we start at 12 noon, we should be done by 6 pm, with plenty of break time for connecting, meals, and socializing.

In between workshops: the famous Oxytocin Group Hugs that fill your personal ecosystem with enchantment and loving energy.

Refreshments, foods, water, amenities: on the sidelines and during breaks.

PAILY13-LoveHumankind2 6:00 pm: Invocation of Earth Goddess, Gaia. Vows to Playa Azul: the Ecosexual Bride. Kiss the Bride. Drum Circle.

6:30: Enter the Body of Water: Bathe in the Caribbean Sea

Fun time till exhaustion of creative energy:
Includes watsu, reiki, more dance and drumming, assorted improvised co-creations, aguinaldos, burlesque . . .
–What to bring: your charming selves, a cheerful mind, a lovely smile, an open heart, swim suits, towels, comfort food, water, comfortable beach clothing for workshops time, PAILY11-LoveEarth1pillows and soft stuff to find comfort on beach floor, eagerness, participation
–What to expect: magic, beauty, enchantment, love, healing, sharing, company, fun, joy, moderation, respect, continuity, togetherness
–Once we start the workshops, the group will be formed. We will expect continuity, and admission to subsequent workshops is subject to participation in previous ones. Presence is required. The degree of participation can vary.

Parking: Please park on the street and Access the beach from the callecita to the south of the Condominio Punta Arenas. At the beach, turn right and go toward to oak tree, palm tree, and uva playera trees.

We look forward to sharing this magic day with you!


Planning a trip to the enchanting island of Puerto Rico for the occasion? It’s easy. Book flights into the Aguadilla/BQN airport. Reserve a rental car. You will be only a 40 minute drive from the events. For housing, let our local contact Maria Preston, in the Cabo Rojo/Playa Azul area, do the job, at 787 360 3396. She will reserve a beautiful and affordable beach front apartment you can share with friends. Enjoy!

Make sure you arrive early enough to also attend Practices of Ecosexuality: A Symposium, on January 28-29. This event is also part of our gift economy.  You can attend and present too.  We accept proposals until December 13, 2015.  Check out details on the Facebook or Blog page.

This program is part of the project Islas Maravillas: Ecosexual Education and Extensive Research at UPRM, for PI SerenaGaia, aka Serena Anderlini.

The project is under the auspices of the College of Arts and Sciences, UPRM, and is supported by Puerto Rico’s Department of Natural Resources.


Tantra Goddess Empowerment w/ Allen McPhee – May 13, Playa Azul, Western Puerto Rico

Embrace the goddess within!
Abraza la diosa dentro de ti! 

Every woman has a hidden side that she keeps for that special ‘someone.’ Sometimes, however, that part of her is hidden for so long that it is impossible to reveal. Join Allen as he reaches into your heart to bring out the goddess in you. A Tantra Goddess embraces her sexuality, without shame or compromise. She controls her destiny even while engaged in relationships. She treats her body as a temple; that is, one deserving of respect and worship. Join Allen for an exploration of divine femininity. Let yourself go where your heart has longed to go.

Exciting, great discussions, transformative, loving environment, and empowering techniques describe this workshop best. Singles, those in committed relationships, experienced practitioners, and even women who are clueless about Tantra will enjoy themselves and transform as a result of their participation in this carefully designed workshop.


This event is generously offered at no cost for women in Western Puerto Rico with a desire to discover the goddess within.  Don’t miss this opportunity to be introduced to Tantra in our region!  Space is limited, so please call in early to confirm your attendance!  

Este es un taller bilingue!  Habra traduccion consecutiva al Espanol.  Asi que, no te dejes intimidar por el idioma, participa!  

Love is in the air!!!!!!! Can you feel it? Call today!
When: Sunday, May 13, 2 to 6pm
Where: Serena’s apartment in Playa Azul, Condominio Punta Arenas, Joyuda, Cabo Rojo
Confirmations: by email, serena.anderlini@gmail.com, by phone at 787 538 1680
Raw vegetarian food served after workshop
About the Facilitator
Allen McPhee is a determined leader and problem solver.  He provides a series of services that promote self-development and growth.  He is a combination of a philosopher, metaphysician and psychic.  He holds a Master’s Degree in Philosophy from Stanford University and has over 15 years of experience in teaching.  He is a passionate teacher and life coach, empowered with wide-ranging experience in self development, energy work, and tantra yoga.  He is honest, discerning, clairvoyant, and empathic.  
Comments about Allen’s Workshops
Andrea: “Thank you Arlene for the opportunity to participate in this event. Such wonderful, beautiful energy! Once again, Allen’s superb ability to listen and break through translated into an empowering evening. Love certainly was everywhere and within everyone of us. We learned so much about ourselves as children – women- of God. Wow. Thank you”
Arlene: “Allen, This was one of the best birthday presents I’ve ever received. Your generosity, patience, and sincere loving kindness was felt by all of us. Thanks for the valuable lessons and great techniques…we now dance, hug, & gaze with purpose and intention!”
Dear Earthlings:
isn’t this wonderful?  Bringing Tantra to Western Puerto Rico!  It’s an opportunity not to be missed.  Allen and I look forward to introducing Goddess Empowerment to you.  Let us know if we can answer any questions.  Your participation is a cherished gift.

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
Gilf Gaia Extraordinaire
Author of Gaia, Eros, and many other books about love
Professor of Humanities

University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez

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SUSTAINABLE LOVE ~~ Retreat in Community ~~ What Is Ecosexuality? ~~ PostaHouse July 14-21, 2012


What is Ecosexuality?

“A World where it is safe to love is a World
where it is safe to live…” Serena Anderlini
Posta, Rieti
In the middle of the Apennine Mountains, approximately
2 hours North-East of Rome, there is a small town called Posta
at the junction of several roads.
This is a place with history. A place where one could change horses
and get a well-earned rest for the night.
A place of tradition, with knowledge of the old ways
as well as the new.


Ecosexual Retreat
Sat 14th – Sat 21st July 2012
Preliminary Program
Sat 14th July
  from 10.00am Registration 
        Morning Arrivals* 
12.30pm Lunch
  4.30pm Plenary
Setting up Community Framework/Agreements
  7.30pm Dinner
followed by
Shamanic Forgiveness and Releasing
  Ceremony (outside?)
Sun 15th July – Thurs 19th July
  6.30am Yoga/prayer/meditation#
  7.30am Breakfast
  8.30am Morning GardenHouse
10.00am Morning Plenary
Community Member presents/Community workshop
12.30pm Midday Prayer
followed by
Lunch (individual) and Siesta
  4.30pm Afternoon Plenary
Community Member presents/Community workshop
  7.30pm Dinner
followed by
Community Activity
On at least one of the days we hope to visit a local artisan or do some
other outside activity in the local mountain-area.
Fri 20th July
  6.30am Yoga/prayer/meditation#
  7.30am Breakfast
  8.30am Morning GardenHouse
10.00am Morning Plenary
Community Member presents/Community workshop
12.30pm Midday Prayer
followed by
Lunch (individual) and Siesta
Afternoon in preparation for
Evening Celebration/Community Feast
  8.00pm Celebration/Feast
Sat 21st July
  6.30am Yoga/prayer/meditation#
  7.30am Breakfast
  Morning clearing/packing
10.30am Final Plenary
Reflections and Intentions
12.30pm Midday Prayer
followed by
Communal Lu
Afternoon departures*  
# The daily Yoga/prayer/meditation session is intended to be led by
Community Members.
* Retreat Participants are welcome to arrive on the evening of Friday 13th and/or stay over until Sunday 22nd for an agreed small extra fee.

A primary intention of this Retreat is to lay an energetic foundation-stone for the PostaHouse Community. The Retreat participants will live, work and play community for 8 days.
This retreat gives us all a chance to explore our own and one another’s gifts. Those who come together here will find what it is that joins us in fellowship, and where we have the work to do. Participation in the Retreat does not bring with it any obligation at all to “join anything.”
However it is our desire at PostaHouse that this exploration will lead to some people making an intention to spend part of their year here. This period may be as little as a week or as much as many months. Our PostaHouse Community will be these active members, the land on which we live and our relationship to one another. It will also be our supporters from further away.
This is not a “passive retreat”; we will be forming it and clothing it together. Most of us have only met before via Facebook or on Conference calls – this is our opportunity in “Earth-time & space” now, together, to make real community in ways which enrich each other in respect and love.

Accommodation and Food

Accommodation for this summer retreat will be in shared rooms and/or in tents in the garden. There are showers and toilet facilities in the house. A prepared Daily Dinner is included as are the Lunches on the first and last Saturday; other lunches during the week are the participants’ own responsibility. Breakfast foods will be available for self-catering every morning.

The cost for the retreat per person is as follows

385  – registration before 1st May 2012
€425  – registration after 1st May 2012
We require a deposit of €100 at the time of booking.
The remainder is payable within 4 weeks, or before 1st July, whichever is the sooner.
These costs include food and accommodation as outlined above; travel is at participants’ own expense.
Please email us at the address below for more information.
We look forward to meeting you in July in Italy

Serena Anderlini                         John Overton

is a place for retreats, for workshops, for meetings,
for music and art, for those deep spiritual ceremonies which connect us with everything in Heaven and on Earth and Each Other – a place of Sustainable Love
in mutually honouring partnership with the Earth.
It is the place of the forming PostaHouse Community.
Blog:                http://postahouse.bezdomny.org/

Bonobo Coaching – Practicing Inclusive Love in the Age of Gaia

Bonobo Coaching – Sustainable Paths to Inclusive Love
Serena’s Eros – Klimt’s Die Madchen

The desire to practice inclusive styles of love is pervasive today.  In the age of Gaia, we have discovered that nature is our hostess.  We owe her to share resources of love as generously as we can. 

Gaia, the Third Planet

Loving inclusively is ecosexual!  People’s belief in exclusivity–romantic, amorous, and/or sexual as it may be–is waning from negative experiences with conventional marriage.  More scientific evidence is at hand to explain this.  Hearts and minds connect in the noosphere as evolution is revisited.  However, not many people know how to navigate the transition from exclusivity to inclusiveness in balanced, sustainable, compassionate ways.  

Bonobo Conservation Initiative

Bonobo Coaching opens paths to styles of inclusive love that are gradual, balanced, and sustainable for all those emotionally involved.  Your coach, Serena, has successfully transitioned to a rich personal life of amorous inclusiveness where relationships sustain each other in balanced and graceful ways.  She has studied inclusive styles of love like polyamory and bisexuality for over a decade.  She has practiced amorous inclusiveness at various levels for about two decades.  She considers herself an ecosexual.  She is the author of several books on the subject, and has offered workshops and coaching sessions world wide.  She can coach in English, Français, Italiano, and Español.  She is fluent and formally trained in these four languages.

Bonobo Conservation Initiative

Bonobos are one of the most amorous and peaceful species Gaia, our hostess planet, has ever seen.  They use grooming, sex, and amorous inclusiveness to resolve conflicts and for social cohesion.  They are the primate species genetically closest to humans.  Bonobo Coaching is a style of coaching designed to sustain us humans in activating the virtues of our genetic kinship with Bonobos and put them to beneficial use.

When not freely chosen, exclusivity can be asphyxiating.  In the transition from exclusivity to expansive amorous inclusiveness, Serena has made all the mistakes.  However, she never allowed a mistake to kick her back into asphyxiation.  What matters about mistakes is the interpretation.  In offering coaching sessions, Serena promises to sustain you in interpreting each mistake an an opportunity to learn and move step forward on the path to the expansive amorous inclusiveness you want.

Here are some Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: What is coaching?  How does it differ from therapy? 

A: Coaching is a way to develop through a confidential dialog with a person whose wisdom and experience one trusts.  This dialog intends to help one move beyond an emotional place where one feels stuck due to societal and conventional limitations, when these fall short in appreciating one’s multiple capacities and talents for love.  Coaching is for people who are well.  It does not intend to cure any condition.  However, it does intend to sustain one in developing one’s unique talents for love. 

Q: What can coaching do for me if I’m seeking to develop an inclusive style of love?

A: Inclusive love is a way of love that expands beyond the mono paradigms typical of Western cultures in the modern world: monosexuality and monogamy.  Its basic premise is that love is an art whose conscious practice helps people develop their basic talents as amorous persons, and become more abundant resources of love for their communities and life as a whole.

Q: How can I get some coaching?   
A: You can make a coaching appointment with Serena by email or phone.  A brief assessment interview will precede the session.  If Serena feels that her coaching can sustain you in your desire to move forward on the path of inclusive love, she will make a coaching appointment with you.  Coaching can often produce results in one to three or four sessions.  Coaching sessions can be one to two hours each.  The cost is $ 60 per hour per person.

You can prepay your session(s).  Serena will receive a notification.  Please make sure you enter your contact in the payment slip so she can reach you!

Appreciation: “Thank you so much for all your support and your brilliant consulting in Malpensa! It has been really helpful…” Ryan from Vienna, 7-22-2011

Q: What kinds of coaching sessions are available?

A: Coaching sessions are available presentially and long-distance.  Presential sessions typically follow a workshop, course, or seminar.  Long-distance sessions are by appointment and can be set up on skype or teleconference.

Earth as Lover – Cindy Baker

Coaching sessions are either individual or with two or multiple participants. Typically, participants are involved in some practice of amorous inclusiveness.  Each participant is assessed individually before coaching begins.  The hourly cost of a multiple session is established based on the needs of the group.  It is usually lower than separate individual sessions.

Q: Are workshops also offered?

Gaia at Kalikalos, Greece

A: Yes.  Serena offers a range of workshops about amorous inclusiveness, the 3WayKiss Workshops.  They are designed to support communities open up the path to more inclusive styles of love.  A good example is “Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory.”  Other options include “The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love,” “Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves,” and “Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities.”  Details and descriptions:  HERE!

Q: How can I bring a 3WayKiss workshop to my community? 

Workshops are only available presentially.  If you have and/or are part of one such community, you can offer your place to host Serena and the workshop(s) of choice.  A three-four hour workshop is usually $ 30-40 per participant, with a minimum enrollment of 15.  Serena has a calendar of open travel dates.  Please consult with her before making plans.  She will offer participants the option of coaching sessions in the days immediately after the workshop. 

Q: How can I reach Serena to book some of her services?

A: You can email serena.anderlini@gmail.com.  Include “Bonobo Coaching” in the subject line so she will recognize your message.  You can also call her phone lines: 787 255 1175 (landline) or 787 538 1680 (iphone).

Bonobo Coaching wishes amorous bliss to you and your beloveds.  Practicing love in conscious and inclusive ways is sustainable and good for you.  Please let us know how we can support you in developing your talents for love. 

If you’ve had a rough Valentine’s day, don’t worry.
Next time will be better!
 Remember to honor the divine in you.
Namaste.  Thank you!
Works Consulted

  • Anapol, Deborah.  Polyamory in the 21st Century.  New York: Rowman & Littlefield, 2010.
  • Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena.  Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009.
  • ______  .  Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves.  New York: Routledge, 2006.
  • Consiglio, Carlo.  L’Amore con piu partner.  Rome: Pioda, 2009.
  • Fisher, Helen.  Why We Love?  The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love.  New York: Holt, 2004.
  • Fromm, Erich.  The Art of Loving.  New York: Harper Perennial, 2006 (first published in German in 1956).
  • Kingma, Daphne Rose.  The Future of Love.  New York: Main Street Books, 1999.
  • ______  .  Coming Apart: Why Relationships End.  New York: Conari Press, 2000.
  • Millenson, Jock, ed.  Liberating Love: Readings from the German Meiga Communities.  Aberystwyth: Cambrian, 2007.
  • Robins, Suzann.  Exploring Intimacy: Cultivating Healthy Relationships.  New York: Rowman & Littlefield, 2010,
  • Ryan, Christopher and Cacilda Jetha.  Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality.  New York: Harper, 2010.

The name “Bonobo Coaching” came up in a conversation with multiple friends, and in particular Murray Schechter.  His sense of humor always gives me joy.  I am grateful. 


Ecosessualità: Un corso sulle arti dell’amore consapevole

Ecosessualità: Un corso sulle arti dell’amore consapevole 

Solo 500 Euro fino al 30 giugno!

Robert Silber, M.S., LMT e    
Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD 

insegnano il primo corso interamente bilingue 
sull’ecosessualità e le arti dell’amore condiviso

Desideri che ti accompagni quella persona del cuore?
Offri un certificato regalo di 50 Euro


Desideri espandere la comunità di persone con cui condividi amore, fiducia, rapporto, intimità e piacere?  Hai voglia di sviluppare i tuoi talenti di artista dell’amore?
Siamo convinti che l’amore sia un’arte.  Se sviluppata consapevolmente, quest’arte dell’amore può apportare creatività, gioia e pace alle nostre vite e al mondo.  Desideriamo condividere con te le nostre conoscenze delle arti di amare e guidarti a sviluppare le tue.  Portare più fiducia, allegria, e abbondanza nella tua vita amorosa fa bene a te, agli/e altri/e e al pianeta.
Il corso facilita il tuo sviluppo come artista dell’amore consapevole.  Aumenterà il tuo potenziale come risorsa d’amore per le tue comunità e reti di amicizie.
Iscriviti con noi per cinque giorni di esercizi e attività che ti stimoleranno la mente, il corpo, e il cuore.  Pratica le tecniche di comunicazione che aiutano a sentirsi più presenti e legati agli/e altri/e.   Esperimenta le modalità di tatto e massaggio che portano all’estasi.  Condividi profondamente con coloro che come te risuonano con passione per la verità, la comunità, e la bellezza delle relazoni autentiche.  Impara ad apprezzare i tuoi talenti per l’espressione erotica e ad usarli piacevolmente e rispettosamente.  Sii presente alla tua natura di risorsa d’ amore.
Dove: Casa di Fervento – Boccioleto
Via Val Sermenza 18, Varallo (Vercelli)
Quando: 16-21 luglio, 2011
Costo del corso: 500 Euro per persona
POSTI LIMITATI!  Iscriviti ora per solo 
500 fino al 30 giugno

Pensione completa con 
opzione vegetariana:
350 Euro da pagarsi all’arrivo
Per la cucina genuina della famosa Stella Procopio 
Ora sono anche disponibili appartamentini 
al vicino Residence Pineta

Alcune delle questioni che intendiamo affrontare includono:

Come può una sensualità consapevole migliorare le proprie relazioni sessuali e agire come forza di pace e giustizia nel mondo?  Come possiamo pienamente apprezzare e sviluppare i nostri diversi talenti per l’amore e l’espressione?  È possible vivere in uno stato di maggiore intimità (non necessariamente di tipo sessuale) con un’intera comunità invece che solamente con un’altra persona?  Che ruolo può avere nello sviluppo personale e globale una rete espansa di amicizie amorose che condividono questi desideri?  Come possiamo soddisfare le nostre necessità di contatto e intimità anche in relazioni che non siano sessuali?  Come possiamo dar sfogo alle nostre emozioni ed esprimere la nostra verità personale in modo da rafforzare la fiducia, costruire rapporto, e creare comunità?

Tu ci porti i tuoi unici talenti.   
Noi ti appoggiamo nella scoperta delle arti dell’amore consapevole.
Proprietà intellettuale condvisa di 3WayKiss e Conscious Sensuality

Desideri iscriverti con chi viene con te?  Offriamo sconti speciali per due o tre partecipanti che si iscrivono insieme! 
POSTI LIMITATI!  Approfitta ora!

Corso Ecosex – for 2 or 3

Who we are and why we teach this:

Robert Silber, M.S, LMT: Since entering the realm of conscious sensuality, he has studied and taught with the Network for New Culture, One Taste, Essensual Evolution (co-founder), and worked with many sacred sexuality and tantra teachers. He practices ashtanga yoga, is a licensed massage therapist, and loves to give massage incorporating the elements of lomi lomi, thai, cranial sacral and pelvic release techniques in a process that is deeply empowering and transformative.  He also provides conscious sensuality coaching via phone/email/in person.
He is a nature lover, master gardener, and was appointed by Robert Kennedy, Jr. as a Riverkeeper. He has worked in the fields of environmental activism, political organizing with Sierra Club, is a certified permaculture designer and co-founded an intentional community and environmental education center in Hawai’i.
He brings these two aspects together in the Kipuka Temple Community, where he has provided a framework of sensual living involving beautiful spaces, permaculture gardens, sustainable living, spiritual cultivation, and perhaps most importantly – a community grounded in conscious communication and intimacy building.
From this location, Robert travels to the mainland and internationally to lead workshops and events.  He is currently finishing a book on conscious sensuality, community and sustainability.
Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a writer, professor, leader, healer, and activist in the paradigm shift toward a Gaian future where humanity makes peace with our hostess planet. She is a successful coach and workshop leader working on polyamory and bisexuality issues. She believes that the Sacred Sex Movement, the Global Ecology Movement and the Holistic Health Movement are part of this paradigm shift. She is currently active in the global Polyamory, Bisexuality, Ecosexuality, and AIDS Dissidence movements and communities. Her latest book, Gaia & the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet, was released in September 2009, from North Atlantic Books, Berkeley. It is now available digitally in Kindle edition, and is a Silver Winner in Cosmology and New Science for the Nautilus Book Awards. Serena is a world class keynote speaker and workshop leader who has presented in California, Washington State, New England, the United Kingdom, and Greece. She also coaches clients on ecosexuality and relatedness issues.
Serena offers coaching sessions to participants interested in healthy, sustainable inclusive relationships.
Robert offers conscious sensuality sessions to interested participants.  

3WayKisses from Gaia – Will the Chrisalys Turn into a Butterfly Soon? Reflections & Season’s Greetings

Hi lovely Earthlings!

Gaia sends 3WayKisses and warm wishes to all of you.  Happy Solstice, Eclipse, Holidays, and 2011!
We are amazed at the forces acting on the transformation of the third planet.  Will the chrysalis turn into a butterfly soon?  Many feel that today’s coincidence of solstice and Lunar eclipse begins the paradigm shift.  Watch it tonight at 2:40AM EST!  The current crisis could be just an opportunity for opposites to meet.  Eros and Gaia, matter and energy, the Earth and the sky, water and fire, sex and love, humans and nature, the Sun and the Moon: aren’t these just mental energy fields that come together in a sensual communion the minute we accept the interconnectedness of all being?  More at Gemini Astrology, Hawaii

This Means Everything to Me 5 – Toby Mott

The power of knowledge keeps moving yours truly.  At this time the very existence of the institution that has sustained her for the past 13 years is in question.  The University of Puerto Rico is under siege by a new governor who wants to sell it to those who fund his career.  Yet yours truly has never been as excited to be in class as this year.  With students’ awareness enhanced by the strike last spring, teaching has become more in-the-moment, more real!  Their appetite for knowledge makes up for all difficulties.  Now it’s time for professors to be in action about the accreditation of the institution.  Rallies, meetings, negotiating solutions, reviving organizations are our daily activities.  You can get a peak from our videos.  The situation has resonated across regions.  Many US-based scholars originally from Puerto Rico have pitched in.  Their letter to the Attorney General is moving.  It bears seventy-four signatures!  Full text here!  UPR is not alone.  May this be the tip of a tidal wave that honors the desire for knowledge honest people harbor within.
Winter Solstice is a special time for hostess Gaia.  She remembers the Saturnalia, a festival of joy and abundance that celebrated the Reign of Saturn in ancient Rome at this time of year.  In the age of Titans, when the forces of nature reigned supreme, Gaia, the earth, and her lover Uranus, the sky, conceived Saturn, the state of being sated, abundant  He presided over the happiest age in the life of our species.  This Golden Age was known as Saturnia Regna in Antiquity.  It was a time when pleasure was an ally of nature and sexual abundance was revered.  Gaia would like to see us revel as did our pagan ancestors this time of year.  Join yous truly in wishing the third planet a joyful holiday season.  When you prepare your gifts, make sure they align with your most authentic beliefs.  Want a new age of love?  We provide the politics–the practice is up to you!  This is the best time for 3WayKisses! You can donate here!

At the October ecosexual gathering in LA, yours truly’s latest opus found its true crowd.  Ecosexuality is in!  On the 23 and 24 of that momentous month, it was amazing to feel the vibration of this new style of love where pleasure and nature marry each other.  The occasion was the 3WayWedding of a highly Saturnian couple, ecosexual artists Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens, and Gaia’s favorite satellite, the Moon.  Befitting HoneyMoon was the world’s first Symposium on Ecosexuality.  The brides shared wisdom with a crowd of imaginative Earthlings gathered for this momentum meeting.  Is nature an enemy, a mother, a lover?  Imagining the Earth as a lover can bring lots of fun into the global ecology movement.  But Gaia is a hostess too!  Shall we learn to respect her before we begin to woo her?  Yours truly was invited to deliver a Message from Gaia.  She gave the Symposium’s Opening Remarks too!  Her featured book, Gaia, resonated with authentic meaning in the neighborhood of this inspiring group.  The quest for the meaning of ecosexuality is open and many voices are pitching in.  The movement swarms with the Saturnian energies of the season.

This Means Everything to Me 5 – Detail

Gaia also attracted a whole bunch of new readers.  The big push-up back in September helped a great deal.  Thanks to all who pitched in!  Around the 26th, sales ranks rose into the 11,000 for general Kindle, 85,000 for paperback list.  They stayed there for quite a while.  Not stunning yet encouraging.  The title rose much higher in specialized lists: Up to top 4th in Feminist Theory, next to Betty Friedan, Mary Wollstonecraft, Judith Butler, and Naomi Wolf.  What a delightful City of Ladies.  How very exciting to be admitted!  Most astounding of all, the title rose to top 1 for the Mind/Body, Diseases, Aids list.  It’s still there, top 31st.  Yours truly is honored to be part of this group.  Good scientists pursue the truth even when they don’t like it.  Poor scientists are afraid of controversial issues.  Unbiased perspectives should be available to people who are able to make their own responsible choices.  When it comes to knowledge, the true enemy is fear.  Look at what’s happening with Wikileaks!  If you’ve liked the book, you can vote for it in Goodreads.  Check the Choice Awards and the Books on Love lists.  There’s a whole range of good reads from yours truly.  Look up her author’s page here!  We wish we could share actual sales figures with you.  Unfortunately, the digital giant Amazon.com won’t even disclose them to yours truly! 

“What about teaching?” you may ask.  Yes, we are doing it, with a Course in Ecosexuality starting at UPR Mayaguez in January.  Find out how to enroll here!  We also got a sense of how interested people are in what we have to teach from the social media, as in Facebook.  Polyamory is big hit!  And we see it as part of the arts of conscious loving.  So we are looking for a hospitable facility in Italy.  If you’re aware of one, please let us know soon!  We have a fantastic team: Yours truly, whose talk about polyamory has been a highlight of Italian TV; and Robert Silber, from Hawaii, who specializes in conscious sensuality, communication and community.  We are putting together the first bilingual course on the arts of conscious loving, with simultaneous translation on the floor as we teach!  We plan to teach it in July and will announce the location as soon as we have one for sure.  English, with its scientific specificity; and Italian, with its passion and romance.  Stay tuned for specific time and place for this groundbreaking experience!

On this note, we wish a joyful holiday to the entire planet and all of you.  The climate change summit in Cancun has not yielded great results.  But we at 3WayKiss have solutions.  The new politics of love we propose is ecological and sexy too.  Vive ecosexuality!  Stop third planet abuse!  As a new year resolution, can we pledge to practice love and respect for our lovely hostess?  Let’s hope Gaia finds  more patience within.  Meanwhile, thanks to Toby Mott for his inspiring paintings.  Check him out here!


Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez


Ecosexuality: A Course in the Arts of Conscious Loving

Ecosexuality: A Course in the Arts of Conscious Loving

What’s ecosexuality?  Just a new buzz word for vegetarian with green bed sheets?  A new sexual orientation to connect with a new-age dreamy date in a chat room?  A new theory? 

It is of course all of these–and none of them.  In this course, we propose Ecosexuality as a new style in the arts of loving that is conscious of how important these arts are in process of making peace with humanitiy’s hostess, the third planet Gaia.

Ecosexuality is a way of being sexual that’s ecological, natural, balanced, amorous, exploring, playful, inclusive, adventurous, holistic, sacred, Gaian, erotic, considerate, consensual, responsible, and healthy, all simultaneously, separately, and in different proportions.

The emphasis in the course is on teaching styles of being amorous that are also ecological.   Ecoloogy has to do with balance and proportion.  For example, if a species reproduces excessively, the balance of an ecosystem is lost.  But when all species are present in sustainable proportions, the ecosystem is healthy and whole.

There is an ecology to sexuality too.  Many paths allow lovers and amorous people to access the ecstasy, the joy, the communion, the bliss of conscious erotic love.  Some include ‘natural’ intermediaries: the ocean, the sky, the moon, mountains, lakes, rivers have all been known to inspire lovers to ecstatic bliss.  Other intermediaries are more ‘human made’: the arts, poetry, scents, foods, wines, jacuzzis, watsu pools, leather, silk, floggers, film, fetishes, videos, sex toys, and a whole assortment of other aphrodisiacs inspire people to become amorous in a variety of sexual ways and paths to erotic ecstasy.  The contemplation of other people in love and the feeling of inclusiveness that emanates therein can be a powerful erotic inspiration too. 

We believe that love is an art that can be learned consciously.  We do not make conclusive statements on that the ‘nature’ of human love can be.  However, we affirm that every person has a very special talent to love.  The intent of the course is to nurture that talent into an artistic form that graces the person and his/her amorous communities with an abundant healthy dosage of the arts of loving.

We propose a wide sampling of these arts, including elements of meditation, touch, sensuality, cuddling, massage, pleasuring, self-pleasuring, communication, mirroring, witnessing, compersion, polyamory, bi-sensuality, sexual play, bonding and domination, fetishism, sexual play, tantra, and more.  These practices are taught as styles of amorous expression that help participants develop their talents as artists of love.

The encouragement is for students to become better resources of love for their communities.  We do not encourage the formation of identities around any of these practices more than any other.  Any combination of them that develops the amorous talents of participants is ecosexual to the extent that it makes the world more abundant with resources of conscious love.

This course is a work in progress.  So far, the main areas are:
Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory
Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities
The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource of Love
Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves

Developed by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, for the intellectual property of 3WayKiss


Workshop 1 – Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory

Workshop 1 – Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory

In the wisdom of love, we understand that the arts of loving can save Gaia, the live planet, because they are part of the arts of healing.  A key concept in these arts is compersion, which comes from polyamory and is often understood as ‘the opposite of jealousy.’  Compersion is the joy of sharing the amorous resources that bless our lives.  It is the bliss of witnessing the love our partners receive from others than ourselves.  Jealousy often registers as a humiliating emotion.  How can this emotion transform into joy?  The 2 1/2 hour workshop is designed to teach this transformation in a series of small-group exercises that impact our inner and outer landscapes.  Compersion, the spirit of polyamory, is a vibration that animates our bodies with joy and participation, once we become familiar with the bioenergetics of this inclusive, liberating emotion.

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a professor of humanities at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez.  She is the author of Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, and the editor of numerous collections.  She teaches courses, workshops, and seminars on the practice of love and the science of Gaia.

Scheduled for July 8, 2010, in Bellingham, WA

Contact: Laya Shriaberg, laya@spiralsun.com


Workshop 2 – Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities

Workshop 2 – Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities

This workshop discusses how changes to fluid-bonding agreements can impact individuals in an erotic community, the community’s notification and negotiation processes, screening protocols, and reactions to disease outbreaks and breaches in agreement.  A general introduction to the topic will be followed by open discussion, with a few anecdotes to break the ice if necessary.

Why is the practice of safer sex important to an erotic community?

The protection of each participant is proportional to the health of the community.  In practicing safer sex, a participant in an erotic community protects other participants from pathogens that might be inadvertently stored in this participant’s body.  Physical safety is conducive of emotional safety too.

Fluid-bonding is the practice of exchanging deep and not-so-deep body fluids with sexual and erotic partners, and the emotional bonding that this implies.  On the pair level, fluid bonding can be viewed as a trading of risk for pleasure and intimacy.  In a given erotic community, it is more complicated; there are implications, both positive and negative, to each participant and to the community as a whole.   In general, one might say that fluid bonding contributes to the health of a community to the extent that it is based on rules that are defined quite explicitly and followed quite closely.

Workshop Design by Serena Anderlini and Murray Schechter


Workshop 3 – The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love

Workshop 3 – The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love

The ecstasy our lovers feel is proportional to our ability to experience it as our own pleasure.  When we get to access this experience our education in the arts of loving can be considered complete.  As artists of love, we will be the source of erotic ecstasy for our lovers in such sublime communion that the pleasure of the other will become our own.

As a principle of erotic/ecstatic communion, the pleasure of the other is not new.  We can read about it in Sappho, Ovid, Veronica Franco, Giacomo Casanova, and others whose love lives have been celebrated in literature.  But how can we learn to generate this pleasure in our own love lives?  This workshop is designed to provide access to this experience.

The exercise intends to initiate participants in the practice of forming a pleasure team and receiving pleasure from multiple sources.  It can be done in a conventional or clothing-optional environment.  Participants form groups of 5 to 7 people and sit on the floor in a circle.  One participant volunteers to be the ‘pleasure emitter,’ the others form the ‘pleasure team.’  The ‘pleasure emitter’ lies down at the center while members of the ‘pleasure team’ sit around in a circle.  Boundaries are set as to what areas of the ‘pleasure emitter’s’ body are open for receiving pleasure and what areas are off limits.  The pleasure team begins to focus on pleasuring the emitter.  Members will stay tuned into each other and listen for signs of pleasure from the emitter.   The emitter will express pleasure with words, moans, and body movements.  These will reverberate as feed back with the team whose members will enhance the pleasure as they respond to the expressions of the emitter.

The exercise can be repeated as many times as there are volunteer pleasure emitters in the group.  Each round lasts about 10-15 minutes.  After two or three rounds, the group will discuss the experience.  Participants will share about what it felt like to be in either position and why.  What did participants learn about pleasure?  Is the pleasure of the other better than our own? 

A group hug can be used as a closing ritual.

A workshop designed by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD