1 of 8 – BiTopia: Is Bi ReConNaissance Happening Now? Read Introduction to BiReCon 2010’s Proceedings Volume

Bi ReConNaissance:
An Introduction to BiTopia, Selected Proceedings from BiReCon
Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio
Preamble
We decided to call BiTopia this volume of the Journal of Bisexuality.  What is BiTopia?  It’s the utopian space where bisexuality is real and present, and also where it is the vanishing point for all the imaginative forms of amorous, erotic, and sexual expression that make life healthy, creative, and fun.  BiTopia is also an appropriate way to memorialize the bi utopian space created by the convergence of three Bi university events in the East Dockland area, site of London’s traditional harbor.  The historic wharfs of the world capital of modern coloniality are being redeveloped as financial districts.[1]  Public universities serve the children of new migrants.  Bisexuality produces knowledge that is transformative and academic at the same time.  This introduction is meant as a recognizance tour of that BiTopian space, with Bi Renaissance as its wish and double entendre. 
Bisexual communities in the UK and nearby regions have come together annually for almost three decades in a stream of conferences known as BiCon.  2010 saw the 28th edition of this event, simultaneously with 10 ICB, the international bi conference.  They took place on August 27-30 at the University of East London, Dockland Campus.  BiReCon 2010, an international day bisexuality research, inaugurated the convergence of bi energies and minds, on the 26th.  This momentous combination, with the added bonus of travel and research funding from the American Institute of Bisexuality, the welcome of BiCon’s well-tuned organizational team, the proactive work of a cluster of UK-based bi researchers (including Meg Barker, Christina Richards, and others), and the congenial public university venue, made BiReCon 2010 a really unique and historic event. 
@ BiReCon w/ Regina Reinhardt & Robyn Ochs
It is an honor to be introducing one more special-topics issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  This issue is dedicated to providing access to the knowledge production generated by BiReCon 2010 and making the spectrum of research projects, areas, and finding related to bisexuality accessible to the public.  As a speaker at the event, a contributor to the volume, and guest editor who originated the idea for this project, I am proud to introduce its contents.  There is always a major difference between flesh-and-bones events and their memorialization on paper.  Regardless of one’s efforts, there is no hope for a proceedings volume to offer anything anywhere nearly the intensity, momentum, and excitement of the conference itself, or even the memory in one’s mind.  However, the intent of this volume is to offer what is possible in that way, with the added bonus of the cognitive and epistemic reflections that turned presentations into contributed articles.  I am indebted to Brian Zamboni, Editor-in-Chef of the Journal of Bisexuality, for his valuable collaborator as a peer-reviewer in this project.  His offer to share the effort is really appreciated. 

To be be continued: 2 of 8 – Bisexuality: Meanings and Contexts.  Watch out for this exciting section in a few days!

Copyright and Prepublication Notice:
© Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, transferred to Taylor & Francis for upcoming publication in BiReCon, a selected proceedings issue of the Journal of Bisexuality.  Prepublished here courtesy of T & F.  Stay tuned for volume and buy it online!
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[1] For more on the history of the Docklands, I refer to Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/London_Docklands
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Ecosexuality: A Course in the Arts of Conscious Loving

Ecosexuality: A Course on the Arts of Conscious LovingOnly 500 Euros until June 30!

Robert Silber, M.S., LMT and 

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD 

teaching the first completely bilingual course on ecosexuality and the art of sharing love
Would you like to invite that special person to join you?
Offer a gift certificate for 50 Euros

Description
Do you desire an expanded community of trust, love, pleasure, intimacy, and connection? Do you wish to develop your talents as artist of love? 

We believe that love is an art, and when consciously developed, the art of love can bring creativity, joy, and peace to our lives and the world. We share our knowledge in the arts of loving and guide you to develop your own. Bringing more trust, fun, and abundance in your amorous life is good for you, for others and for the planet.

 
The course will facilitate your development as an artist of conscious love. It will enhance your potential as a resource of love for your communities and networks.

Join us for five days of exercises and activities that will stimulate your mind, body, and heart. Practice communication techniques that help you to become more present and connected with others. Experience touch and massage modalities that create trust and lead to ecstasy. Share deeply with others who resonate with your passion for truth, community and the beauty of authentic relationships. Learn to appreciate your talents for erotic expression and use them pleasurably and respectfully. Be present to your nature as a resource of love.

 
Where: Casa di Fervento – Boccioleto
Via Val Sermenza 18, Varallo (Vercelli)
When: July 16-21, 2011
Cost of Course: 500 Euros per person
LIMITED ENROLLMENT!  SIGN UP NOW
for only 500 Euros until June 30th

Full Board with
Vegetarian Option:
350 Euros, DUE ON ARRIVAL
For the fabulous cuisine of
Stella Procopio 
Mini apartments at nearby 
Residence Pineta now 
available too!

Some of the questions we will address include:How can a more conscious sensuality improve one’s sexual relationships and act as a force for more peace and justice in the world? How can our diverse talents for love and amorous expression be fully developed and appreciated? Can we live in a state of greater intimacy (not necessarily sexual intimacy) within a community and not just one other person? What role can an expanded network or community of friends who share these desires play in both individual and global development? How can we meet our needs for touch and closeness in non-sexual relationships? How can we release our emotions and speak our truth in ways that build trust, connection and create community?

You bring your unique talents. 

We support you discovering the arts of conscious love.

Shared intellectual property of 3WayKiss and Conscious Sensuality

Company to enroll?  We offer special discounts for two and three participants who enroll together! 
SPACE IS LIMITED!  Take advantage now!

Corso Ecosex – for 2 or 3

Who we are and why we teach this:
 
Robert Silber, M.S, LMT: Since entering the realm of conscious sensuality, he has studied and taught with the Network for New Culture, One Taste, Essensual Evolution (co-founder), and worked with many sacred sexuality and tantra teachers. He practices ashtanga yoga, is a licensed massage therapist, and loves to give massage incorporating the elements of lomi lomi, thai, cranial sacral and pelvic release techniques in a process that is deeply empowering and transformative.  He also provides conscious sensuality coaching via phone/email/in person.
He is a nature lover, master gardener, and was appointed by Robert Kennedy, Jr. as a Riverkeeper. He has worked in the fields of environmental activism, political organizing with Sierra Club, is a certified permaculture designer and co-founded an intentional community and environmental education center in Hawai’i.
He brings these two aspects together in the Kipuka Temple Community, where he has provided a framework of sensual living involving beautiful spaces, permaculture gardens, sustainable living, spiritual cultivation, and perhaps most importantly – a community grounded in conscious communication and intimacy building.
From this location, Robert travels to the mainland and internationally to lead workshops and events.  He is currently finishing a book on conscious sensuality, community and sustainability.
Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a writer, professor, leader, healer, and activist in the paradigm shift toward a Gaian future where humanity makes peace with our hostess planet. She is a successful coach and workshop leader working on polyamory and bisexuality issues. She believes that the Sacred Sex Movement, the Global Ecology Movement and the Holistic Health Movement are part of this paradigm shift. She is currently active in the global Polyamory, Bisexuality, Ecosexuality, and AIDS Dissidence movements and communities. Her latest book, Gaia & the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet, was released in September 2009, from North Atlantic Books, Berkeley. It is now available digitally in Kindle edition, and is a Silver Winner in Cosmology and New Science for the Nautilus Book Awards. Serena is a world class keynote speaker and workshop leader who has presented in California, Washington State, New England, the United Kingdom, and Greece. She also coaches clients on ecosexuality and relatedness issues.
Serena offers coaching sessions to participants interested in healthy, sustainable inclusive relationships.
Robert offers conscious sensuality sessions to interested participants.  
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Non Chiamatele Corna – Don’t Call This Cuckholdry

Mente e Cervello dedica un intero numero all’amore multiplo.  Wooow!  Forse è il momento del poliamore in Italia?  Proviamolo, no?  Ecco l’articolo “Non Chiamatele Corna” di Paola Emilia Cicerone.  Intervistate: Elisabeth Sheff, Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Dossie Easton e altre.
Mente e Cervello (mind and brain) dedicates an entire issue to multiple loves.  Wooow!  Maybe it’s time for Italian polyamory?  Let’s give it a try!  Here’s the article “Non Chiamatele Corna (don’t call this cuckholdry) by Paola Emilia Cicerone.
Interviewed: Elisabeth Sheff, Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Dossie Easton and more.

Per la rivista cliccate qui:

Mente e Cervello, Febbraio 2011 – L’Amore Multiplo

Per il permesso ringraziamo Paola Emilia Cicerone e Marco Cattaneo

                                       

E ora anche disponibile il primo corso interamente bilingue che affronta il tema anche dal punto di vista pratico.
Le iscrizioni sono aperte.
I posti sono limitati!
Non manchiamo questa occasione di sviluppare le reti poliamoriste in Italia!
Per iscriversi ora cliccare sul link:

Ecosessualita: Le Arti dell’ Amore Consapevole
Varallo, Vercelli, 15-21 Luglio, 2011

Purtoppo non ci è tecnicamente possibile ripubblicare l’articolo in forma più accessibile.  Del resto è meglio cosi, Mente e Cervello è molto interessante.  
   L’articlo è proprio ben fatto, con una certa analisi, sfondo storico, cenni sul cinema, illustrazioni piacevoli, ed il “lessico familiare” di chi il poliamore lo pratica.  Le interviste riflettono una varietà di prospettive di chi ha esperienza del poliamore e lo ha studiato. 
   Per una visione completa e agevole dell’articolo, raccomandiamo 
la rivista in carne ed ossa (ehmmmm, in carta stampata!)

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9 of 9: Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving – Preview

“Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving”

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int’l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker
Conclusion: “Getting Bi” in a Very Gaian Way
If bisexuality is an unfinished project, BiReCon and this volume could be the sparkle that reignites.  My contribution gestures toward a way of being bi that is more natural and more artistic too.  As a social construct, “sexuality” seems to dominate whenever love is seen as a need or instinct.  In an erotic context, those same needs register as talents, the raw materials upon which a good education in the arts of love can build.  That’s why in common parlance “bi” is often used, with the suffix “sexual” omitted, as in Robyn Ochs’s Getting Bi.  Bisexuality has secured a place in the LGBTQ acronym, it is even poised to become an equally protected category in the marriage equality disputes at some point in the future.  But its complexity is far from being understood.  More education in the arts of loving is needed, with the special talents bisexuals offer featured prominently in the curriculum.  Only education and access to knowledge can dispel myths, and the good news is that education in the arts of loving is good for the third planet Earth too. 
In the ways of a report on the “war” we humans wage on this gracious hostess, it would appear that Gaia is at the moment not very happy with us.  At the very least, we are a mixed blessing for the “gay” planet.  She must have the impression that we humans are an abusive species that takes the lion’s share and does not respect the environment well enough.  Can we get Gaia to change her mind?  As a portal to a world without the homo/hetero divide, bisexuality allows us to imagine a planet where the erotic energy that makes Gaia alive is not blocked by socially constructed binaries.  This world puts the politics of love center stage because it loves Eros: it is erotophile.  Dominating is a lot of work.  To simply “get bi” is a lot more fun.  Wouldn’t this be a shift in paradigms?  It would open up a future where Gaia is recognized as a “gay” planet.  As a way to bode well for this future, let me anticipate two possible transformative constructs: Organic bisexuality and holistic sexual health. 
Sex educators Kamala Devi and Reid Mihalko advise against judging relationships from longevity (2010).  Quality is what counts.  Organicity.  Relationships, says progressive counselor Daphne Kingma, have a natural way of coming apart, or transmuting, when their developmental task is complete (2000).  In this context, “organic bisexuality” seems a highly sustainable orientation that bodes well for the future.  It can sustain the fluidity of a person’s lifetime as an erotic being.  It can enhance the erotic virtues of bisexual versatility while our species transitions to a culture beyond “sexuality,” where the arts of loving are revered.
As a form of sexual fluidity, organic bisexuality is also part of a more natural way to be amorous and erotically inclusive.  It’s a Gaian way of getting bi, as bisexual advocate and author Robyn Ochs would most likely put it.  This way honors the origins of our species in our four-billion years old ancestors, bacteria, whose orgiastic sex lives allowed life to begin.  The origin of sex is in the symbiosis of bacteria.  Allowing the energy of love to circulate is what infuses matter with life today too.  As we transition to a Gaian paradigm, we learn to honor the gayness of our species.  We choose to love the only planet willing to have us over.  And we become more aware of our bodies as ecosystems.  As a web of life, Gaia is made of symbiotic ecosystems.  Each and every one of us is also one such smaller combination of symbiotic beings.  For example, the friendly bacteria in our digestive tracts are symbionts without which we could not be alive.
Our orgiastic yet completely innocent ancestors have been welcome on our hostess planet for four billion years.  We have been so abusive in our short shrift of about one million years (and the past three millennia in particular), that human-made climate change and other cataclysms could soon turn most of us in homeless climate refugees.  Could this be because we need to be more in tune with sexual fluidity?  Perhaps we should consider learning something from bacteria.  That’s where a holistic notion of sexual health comes in.  As a way to develop the arts of loving that sustain our ecosystems, we need to manifest ecological styles of love that sustain the vitality of the amorous networks where these arts are taught and practiced profusely. 
So my recommendation for the project of bisexuality to sparkle anew is that we would do well to learn from our older progenitors and celebrate their orgiastic fluidity, their bisexual equal opportunism as the cure that will heal our species and end its unwinnable war against our
hostess planet.  Identity seems to be a condition for inclusion, and yet, as a basis for coalition it is tricky.  Women have had the vote for almost a century now in countries that lead the industrial revolution.  And what does the scene of politics look like?  Has love come to a center stage position?  Where identity fails, vision often succeeds. 
In a famous article of 2000, legal scholar Kenji Yoshino lamented the “epistemic contract of bisexual erasure” by which both straights and gays tacitly agree to suppress bisexuality from legal and cultural discourse.  His point is well taken, and unfortunately, he found abundant evidence to prove it.  Yet to be proven wrong is all he wished.  Can we do it?  Ultimately, who stands to gain from constructing bisexuals as the new bête noire of the sexual liberation movement?  And why does such a movement need scapegoats to begin with?  Associating bisexuals with predators, the hypersexed, the unredeemable only helps to fuel the flames of fundamentalist erotophobic leaders and the crowds who follow them, partly out of new forms of ignorance that have arisen from the privatization of knowledge and widespread corruption in the seats of power and the media.  When public education becomes a priority over the war machine, the arts of loving that bis specialize in will be redeemed.  They will be taught in schools! 
When bisexuality breaks the sound wall and opens up that portal to a world without the hetero/homo divide, a scene of world politics without binaries will emerge.  Forces will coalesce to share resources of love more generously and efficiently, and to break down the fears that separate individuals from one another and make them sick and miserable.  As an educator, I’ve had the privilege of doing research and scholarship about bisexuality in the past thirteen years under the aegis of a public institution of higher education, the University of Puerto Rico, with the added bonus of integrating this research into my undergraduate teaching.  The complete academic freedom, or libertad de cátedra, I have experienced is also significant.  I send my wish into the future.  May more knowledge about bisexuality manifest and more research into its complexities, possibilities, and virtues come to fruition. 
Bi portals open vistas on a future where the arts of love redeem our species.  We’re at war against Gaia and cannot win!  Why don’t we try to make peace?  With Robyn Ochs and others a BiReCon I cast my vision for a way of “getting bi” around the globe that is very Gaian indeed. 
May BiReCon be just the beginning! 
 
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Barash, David, and Judith Eve Lipton.  The Myth of Monogamy.  New York: Holt 2001.
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Consiglio, Carlo.  L’amore con più partner.  Rome: Pioda, 2009.

Corrigan, Annie.  “Dan Savage Interview, Part 3: It’s Not Easy Being Non-Monogamous.” Kinsey Confidential, Dec 24, 2010.  http://kinseyconfidential.org/dan-savage-3-non-monogamous/

Devi, Kamala and Reid Mihalko.  Ethics for Non-Monogamous Ninjas.  N.P.: Createspace, 2010.
Diamond, Lisa.  Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire.  Harvard University Press, 2008.
Druckerman, Pamela.  Lust in Translation: Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee.  New York: Penguin, 2007.
Dworkin, Sari.  “Biracial, Bicultural, Bisexual: Bisexuality and Multiple Identities.”  Journal of Bisexuality: 2: 4 (2002): 93-108.
Fahs, Brianna.  “Compulsory Bisexuality?: The Challenges of Modern Sexual Fluidity.”  Journal of Bisexuality: 9: 3-4 (July-December 2009): 431-450.
Fromm, Erich.  The Art of Loving.  Marion Hausner Pauck tr.  New York: Harper, 2006.  (First published in 1956.)
Gimbutas, Marija.  The Language of the Goddess: Unearthing the Hidden Symbols of Western Civilization.  San Francisco: Thames and Hudson, 1989.
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Kingma, Daphne.  Coming Apart.  Newburyport, MA: Conari Press, 2000.
Klein, Marty.  America’s War on Sex: The Attack on Law, Lust, and Liberty.  Westport, Connecticut: Praeger, 2006.
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Ince, John.  The Politics of Lust.  New York: Prometheus, 2003.
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Levine, Judith.  Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex.  New York: Thunder Mouth Press, 2003. 
Ley, David J.  Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them.  New York: Rowman and Littlefield, 2009. 
Lichtenstein, Bronwen.  “Secret Encounter: Black Men, Bisexuality, and AIDS in Alabama.”  Medical Anthropology Quarterly: 14: 3 (September 2000): 374-393. 
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McLelland, Kaye.  “Towards a Bisexual Shakespeare.”  (In this volume.)
Miller, Marshall.  “’Ethically Questionable?’: Popular Media Reports on Bisexual Men and AIDS.”  Journal of Bisexuality: 2: 2 (2002): 93-112.
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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010


BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

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8 of 9: Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving – Preview

“Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving”

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int’l Bisexual Research Conference

Contribution by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Keynote Speaker
Part 2 – Addressing the Audience: Bisexuality and Ecology Today
On the public-sex area of the beach, a group of bisexuals forms and we decide to meet later at the Club Le Look.  It’s a “gay” club we hear.  We feel we’d be more welcome than in other libertine clubs because we’re “gay” too.  It turns out customers are 90 percent gay men.  There is a lot of sexual play in the scene.  In our area, it includes fellatio between males under the table and light play between two bi women above.  The ever inclusive, I observe a young guy at a nearby table, alone.  He seems lonely and I weave him to join.  We all move close to the music and form a bawdy dancing circle.  The public seems quite excited.  The show is interesting.  Someone asks us to stop and we do. 
The following evening I go back to Le Look to meet the group again.  The henchman of the club meets me at the entrance.  He won’t let me in.  He is very upset with me.  He says, in a very angry, Parisian accented French:
“I’ve sent the guy away!”
I ask to get in. 
“You can’t” he says, “unless you give up you ‘het’ ways.” 
I ask for some explanation? 
“This is a GAY club!” he yells.  “Gays don’t’ wiggle their butts in het clubs,” he claims.  “So we don’t want you ‘hets’ to wiggle your butts on ‘our’ terrain!” 
“But we’re bisexuals,” I dare say, “the whole group was having fun together.  We came here because it’s ‘gay’.” 
It’s beside the point, I soon realize.  The guy is simply ignorant of bisexuality.  There’s no awareness of it as a community, an orientation, a style of erotic expression.  The henchman claims gay male customers protested yesterday. 
I move on, passing a straight club next door with female pole dancers.  The atmosphere is very gender binary, commercialized, hyper-sexualized in a consumerist way. 
My friend is just a few steps away.  I wave at him.  We sit at a nearby café, exhausted.  Over a glass of wine, I ask him the million dollar question, “why do you go to Le Look?  Are you gay?”
“I’m bisexual” he replies.  “And single.  At straight clubs there’s an extra charge for single men.  Sixty Euros, versus 10 for a het couple.”
I look at him in the face.  I date bi men, so I’m aware.  “But don’t you get picked up at gay clubs, I mean, by men?” I ask.
“Sometimes I do,” is the reply I get.  “I’m bi but prefer women.”
Later on I notice the very pronounced sensibility of the back of his body I tend to like in bi men, as it reminds me of myself.  I think of Carol Queen, another bisexual pioneer, and her historic video, Bend Over Boyfriend. 
The young man is French.  He speaks no English.  “What does ‘bi’ mean to him?” I wonder.  “No bi pride, acceptance, visibility?” I reflect.  “We’re in France!  We’re in the summer capital of French libertine culture.  The bi movement has been co-opted in the LGBT movement and has lost its agenda.” I conclude to myself.  “Where is the vision?”  I tell my French friend about my keynote.  He has no awareness of conferences on bisexuality.  He seems almost surprised.  “There’s a reason why this happened.”  “Right.”  “This will be a great story to tell!” we laugh away.  And, yes, that’s of course why it happened–turning my vacation into experimental research!

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010


BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

 

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Bonobo Coaching – Practicing Inclusive Love in the Age of Gaia

Bonobo Coaching – Sustainable Paths to Inclusive Love
Serena’s Eros – Klimt’s Die Madchen

The desire to practice inclusive styles of love is pervasive today.  In the age of Gaia, we have discovered that nature is our hostess.  We owe her to share resources of love as generously as we can. 

Gaia, the Third Planet

Loving inclusively is ecosexual!  People’s belief in exclusivity–romantic, amorous, and/or sexual as it may be–is waning from negative experiences with conventional marriage.  More scientific evidence is at hand to explain this.  Hearts and minds connect in the noosphere as evolution is revisited.  However, not many people know how to navigate the transition from exclusivity to inclusiveness in balanced, sustainable, compassionate ways.  

Bonobo Conservation Initiative

Bonobo Coaching opens paths to styles of inclusive love that are gradual, balanced, and sustainable for all those emotionally involved.  Your coach, Serena, has successfully transitioned to a rich personal life of amorous inclusiveness where relationships sustain each other in balanced and graceful ways.  She has studied inclusive styles of love like polyamory and bisexuality for over a decade.  She has practiced amorous inclusiveness at various levels for about two decades.  She considers herself an ecosexual.  She is the author of several books on the subject, and has offered workshops and coaching sessions world wide.  She can coach in English, Français, Italiano, and Español.  She is fluent and formally trained in these four languages.

Bonobo Conservation Initiative

Bonobos are one of the most amorous and peaceful species Gaia, our hostess planet, has ever seen.  They use grooming, sex, and amorous inclusiveness to resolve conflicts and for social cohesion.  They are the primate species genetically closest to humans.  Bonobo Coaching is a style of coaching designed to sustain us humans in activating the virtues of our genetic kinship with Bonobos and put them to beneficial use.

When not freely chosen, exclusivity can be asphyxiating.  In the transition from exclusivity to expansive amorous inclusiveness, Serena has made all the mistakes.  However, she never allowed a mistake to kick her back into asphyxiation.  What matters about mistakes is the interpretation.  In offering coaching sessions, Serena promises to sustain you in interpreting each mistake an an opportunity to learn and move step forward on the path to the expansive amorous inclusiveness you want.

Here are some Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: What is coaching?  How does it differ from therapy? 

A: Coaching is a way to develop through a confidential dialog with a person whose wisdom and experience one trusts.  This dialog intends to help one move beyond an emotional place where one feels stuck due to societal and conventional limitations, when these fall short in appreciating one’s multiple capacities and talents for love.  Coaching is for people who are well.  It does not intend to cure any condition.  However, it does intend to sustain one in developing one’s unique talents for love. 

Q: What can coaching do for me if I’m seeking to develop an inclusive style of love?
3WayKiss

A: Inclusive love is a way of love that expands beyond the mono paradigms typical of Western cultures in the modern world: monosexuality and monogamy.  Its basic premise is that love is an art whose conscious practice helps people develop their basic talents as amorous persons, and become more abundant resources of love for their communities and life as a whole.

Q: How can I get some coaching?   
A: You can make a coaching appointment with Serena by email or phone.  A brief assessment interview will precede the session.  If Serena feels that her coaching can sustain you in your desire to move forward on the path of inclusive love, she will make a coaching appointment with you.  Coaching can often produce results in one to three or four sessions.  Coaching sessions can be one to two hours each.  The cost is $ 60 per hour per person.

You can prepay your session(s).  Serena will receive a notification.  Please make sure you enter your contact in the payment slip so she can reach you!

Appreciation: “Thank you so much for all your support and your brilliant consulting in Malpensa! It has been really helpful…” Ryan from Vienna, 7-22-2011

Q: What kinds of coaching sessions are available?

A: Coaching sessions are available presentially and long-distance.  Presential sessions typically follow a workshop, course, or seminar.  Long-distance sessions are by appointment and can be set up on skype or teleconference.

Earth as Lover – Cindy Baker

Coaching sessions are either individual or with two or multiple participants. Typically, participants are involved in some practice of amorous inclusiveness.  Each participant is assessed individually before coaching begins.  The hourly cost of a multiple session is established based on the needs of the group.  It is usually lower than separate individual sessions.


Q: Are workshops also offered?

Gaia at Kalikalos, Greece

A: Yes.  Serena offers a range of workshops about amorous inclusiveness, the 3WayKiss Workshops.  They are designed to support communities open up the path to more inclusive styles of love.  A good example is “Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory.”  Other options include “The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love,” “Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves,” and “Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities.”  Details and descriptions:  HERE!

Q: How can I bring a 3WayKiss workshop to my community? 

Workshops are only available presentially.  If you have and/or are part of one such community, you can offer your place to host Serena and the workshop(s) of choice.  A three-four hour workshop is usually $ 30-40 per participant, with a minimum enrollment of 15.  Serena has a calendar of open travel dates.  Please consult with her before making plans.  She will offer participants the option of coaching sessions in the days immediately after the workshop. 


Q: How can I reach Serena to book some of her services?

A: You can email serena.anderlini@gmail.com.  Include “Bonobo Coaching” in the subject line so she will recognize your message.  You can also call her phone lines: 787 255 1175 (landline) or 787 538 1680 (iphone).

Bonobo Coaching wishes amorous bliss to you and your beloveds.  Practicing love in conscious and inclusive ways is sustainable and good for you.  Please let us know how we can support you in developing your talents for love. 


If you’ve had a rough Valentine’s day, don’t worry.
Next time will be better!
 Remember to honor the divine in you.
Namaste.  Thank you!
Works Consulted

  • Anapol, Deborah.  Polyamory in the 21st Century.  New York: Rowman & Littlefield, 2010.
  • Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena.  Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009.
  • ______  .  Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves.  New York: Routledge, 2006.
  • Consiglio, Carlo.  L’Amore con piu partner.  Rome: Pioda, 2009.
  • Fisher, Helen.  Why We Love?  The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love.  New York: Holt, 2004.
  • Fromm, Erich.  The Art of Loving.  New York: Harper Perennial, 2006 (first published in German in 1956).
  • Kingma, Daphne Rose.  The Future of Love.  New York: Main Street Books, 1999.
  • ______  .  Coming Apart: Why Relationships End.  New York: Conari Press, 2000.
  • Millenson, Jock, ed.  Liberating Love: Readings from the German Meiga Communities.  Aberystwyth: Cambrian, 2007.
  • Robins, Suzann.  Exploring Intimacy: Cultivating Healthy Relationships.  New York: Rowman & Littlefield, 2010,
  • Ryan, Christopher and Cacilda Jetha.  Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality.  New York: Harper, 2010.

Acknolwledgment:
The name “Bonobo Coaching” came up in a conversation with multiple friends, and in particular Murray Schechter.  His sense of humor always gives me joy.  I am grateful. 

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“Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving”

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int’l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker
Part 2 – Addressing the Audience:  Bisexuality and Ecology Today, Cont’d
“So, if the project of bisexuality in the late 20th century was to make bisexuality disappear because sex would be reorganized as the art of allowing the circulation of the energy of Eros in Gaia, why does bisexuality often register as a micro-identity today?  The movement formed itself in the shadow of AIDS, when intense new fears of infection and contamination came up.  Eventually those were partly assuaged by safer sex practices.  However, changes in global ecology, including climate instability and the toxic soup that engulfs much of our lives, became more apparent and their effects could be observed in a variety of human health crises.  Why do we perceive bisexuality as a niche within the wider LGBTQ spectrum, and one that is often made invisible, assimilated, collapsed within the wider community where it supposedly belongs?  Defensiveness and fear of contamination still affect the way we approach intimacy.  Has bisexuality imploded upon itself?”
To elaborate on these questions, I proceeded to use some anecdote, for which I offer some context here.  As an experimentalist of the arts of loving, I tend to form constellations of amorous partners who are aware of each other, compatible, complementary, interdependent, and mutually respectful.  Sometimes they also genuinely love each other.  I structure my personal time and vacations around these experiments.  Through books and other forms of study and intellectual expression I put out in the world, I tend to acquire new members in my amorous circles.  In 2009 one new such member appeared, Dr. Carlo Consiglio, a zoologist and retired university professor from my birth city of Rome, who read Gaia and sent me one of his books on inclusive forms of love (2009).  Carlo is a naturist, another passion we share.  He got in action to form a group of like-minded friends to visit the naturist village of Cap d’Agde, in Southwest France, land of the mythical troubadours whose poems spread the virus of courtly love in early modern Europe; land of the Cathars and other free-love heretics. 
Today, Cap d’Agde is a major gathering point for those who love nature, nudity, and sex, with a capacity of 31,000 visitors.  We arrive in mid August, a merry fellowship of four, all from Italy with me the only one fluent in French.  The campground where we stay is for family nudism, like the nearby beach.  It’s populated with pur et dur, Birkenstock style nudists.  One can observe entire multigenerational families in perfect suntans whose skins have never been marked by a bathing-suit line.  No frills or sexy negligés here.  It’s a completely desexualized style of nudism.  Next is the plage des rencontres, a beach famous for its tradition of public sex, including male-female couples, scenes with multiple partners, some BDSM, and clusters of mildly aroused viewers forming around the most interesting action.  Remember, this is France.  All of this is not just tolerated: it’s legitimate, we learn.  In addition, the “family” area of the nude beach, with children and all, and the public-sex area seem to have found a regime of perfect compatibility.  Mutual tolerance and relaxed discretion rule.  To continue the analogy with nutrition, in French families kids are known to learn about wine, be around it, smell it, get a taste of it for initiation at some point.  The idea is that as adults they’ll drink moderately and make tasteful choices.  So it is with sex, it seems.  Naturists gather at Cap d’Agde from many world regions.  Yet people seem to quickly assimilate French wisdom.  Not too far from the non-sexualized nudism of the family campground where we are staying are large apartment complexes that host commercial centers.  This is a much more sexualized area, with people wearing provocative costumes, mild BDSM apparel, full drag, and other imaginative outfits.  It’s studded with Clubs Libertins.  Inside, one finds separés for sexual activity in open view of other customers.  

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010


BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

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“Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving”

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int’l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Part 2 – Addressing the Audience: Bisexuality and Ecology Today

As I opened my remarks, my first concern was getting a sense of what people heard when the two main concepts of my talk were mentioned: bisexuality and Gaia.  “Have bi people thought of bisexuality in relation to ecology?” I wondered.  “Do bi people think of sexual expression in relation to global health?”  If I was ever going to find out, this was the right place.  “What does ‘bi’ mean to you?”  I asked, inviting responses related to bi icons in the media, history, community, LGBTQ landscapes, movements, activism, in the past, in relation to physiology, eroticism, and health.  “What does Gaia mean to you?” was my next question, with emphasis on popular culture, science, spirituality, mythology, paganism, art, ecology, and health.  A variety of responses came my way, with a sense that enough people had thought of the two concepts together to make this a valuable occasion for my talk.  I proceeded with caution . . .
“Can we imagine bisexuality as a portal to a future that’s more sustainable in the way we use resources of love?  This is a future without the hetero/homo divide.  Can we see it in our mind’s eye for a minute?  Bisexuality, as a transformative force of society, opens up this portal, and, what do we find on the other side?  We find a world where the energy of love circulates regardless of gender.  Perhaps this is a world where bisexuality is unnecessary, because both homosexuality and heterosexuality have become unnecessary too!  Perhaps this is a world where the whole notion of “sexuality” that organizes love as a need or an instinct has become obsolete, because humanity finally realizes that love is an art.  Love: the art that makes Gaia gay: that makes her alive.”  On this occasion, I shared the insight I get from the Italian language that Gaia actually means “gay.”  “Gaia,” I continued, “is used as both a female first name and the feminine form of the adjective gaio.”  It translates as “she who is cheerful, joyful, allegra, gaia, or ‘gay’ in the original sense of the word.  The Earth is green, and blue, and white, even though we humans have been at war with her for several centuries, with our warfare becoming ever so violent and destructive in recent decades.  If Gaia has not turned into a brownish rock like her neighbors Mars and Venus yet, she must be really ‘gay’!  In this case, bisexuality is a path to the actualization of this joyful, playful, shared, pleasurable mode of existence that enables our species to make peace with our hostess planet.” 
In the ways of establishing historical memory in relation to bisexuality and nature, I went back to the beginning stages of the bisexual movement, when bisexuals coalesced to affirm our distinctiveness from, and contributions to, the gay and lesbian liberation movement.  “At that time,” I reminded my audience, “this connection between bisexuality and nature seemed self-evident.”  As a contribution to a bi classic from that age, Bi Any Other Name, Annie Sprinkle, herself a pioneer and an iconic figure of bisexuality, wrote a piece called “Beyond Bisexual.”  There she explains this connection in very broad strokes.  I read from the book:
“I started out as a regular heterosexual woman.  Then I became bisexual.  Now I am beyond bisexual—meaning I am sexual with more than just human beings.  I literally make love with things like waterfalls, winds, rivers, trees, plants, mud, buildings, sidewalks, invisible things, spirits, beings from other planets, the earth, and yes, even animals” (103).
“Today this feminine/feminist leader of bisexuality has morphed into a pioneer of ecosexuality,” I continued.  “Annie and her partner Beth cannot legally marry each other, but they organize a series of performance art ceremonies where they marry a force of nature.  The next three-way wedding is to Gaia’s satellite, the Moon, to be performed in LA on October 23rd.  It will be followed by a HoneyMoon the brides will share with a bunch of ecosexuals in the world’s first symposium on ecosexuality.  ‘Ecosexual’ comes from the personals, Annie and Beth explained at an event Deborah Anapol and I invited them to in San Rafael, California, last July,” I continue.[1]  “‘Heteroflexible,’ ‘homoflexible,’ ‘graysexual,’ ‘pansexual,’ ‘metrosexual,’ ‘genderqueer,’ ‘ecosexual,’ ‘Sapphist’ are some of the buzz-words I hear.  If these are the new adjectives people use to describe how they practice love, the shared subtext is that in the new millennium there is fluidity to sexuality, flexibility around the homo/hetero divide, the desire for a spontaneity that feels natural.  The ‘sexuality’ of the new millennium seems to be ‘beyond’ bisexuality and not quite there yet at the same time.  ‘Beyond’ because all these descriptors have the ‘bi’ word as a subtext; not quite there yet because we humans are still trapped in the notion of sexuality that organizes love as a need or an instinct rather than an art.” 

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010


BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

[1] Recorded in the blogosphere, see “What’s The New Politics of Love that People Wonder About?” Posted by Serena Anderlini on July 5, 2010. http://polyplanet.blogspot.com/2010/07/what-this-new-politics-of-love-that.html
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“Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving”

BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int’l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker

Part 1 – Preamble: Manifesting Bisexuality, Cont’d

Back in the 1980s, for bi activists based in the US, part of the vision for bisexuality was the joy of being “out” as people who were “gay” too.  The idea was that we too had an affinity for the gay planet, and that as “gays,” united, we would affirm that love is the cure–not the diseas–for our species and the web of life that sustains it.  Getting the B in LGBT was an intermediate goal in that long-range vision.  However, when that goal was reached, it seems that something happened to the vision.  BiReCon was a perfect context to reflect on this.  I started pondering questions like, “was there a mixed blessing in the inclusive acronym?”  “Did the overall strategy get hijacked for some reason?”  The question of marriage equality is often seen as cause for some of the hijacking in both poly and bi circles.  However, this is unconfirmed by the latest jurisprudence based on the US Constitution.  According to the Finding of Facts and Conclusions of Law in the case that is likely to repeal Proposition 8 (and hopefully deter any such future initiatives), marriage equality is based on gender equality and one’s right to marry those who inspire one with “tender feelings” (Perry vs. Schwarzenegger 2010: 13, 43).  It looks like marriage equality is poised to become a 14th Amendment issue.  Experts describe sexual orientation as a “relational construct” and speak of three groups for whom equal protection can be invoked, at least as a possibility: “heterosexual, homosexuals, and bisexuals” (71).  “Regulating filiation” is only a secondary purpose of marriage, since older and infertile people are allowed to marry too (13, 41).  In the long range, marriage equality for all “gay” people is likely to transform the institution of marriage in directions that may be very widely inclusive of erotic and amorous diversity.  Yet perhaps there are reasons why this victory seems Pyrrhic.  In the short range, the high priority given to this issue does have an effect on bisexual people.  Posturing for marriage eligibility involves a certain repudiation of non-monogamy, a certain acceptance of normativity.  This posturing has happened while the question of pleasure, and the erotic practices that accrue it in relation to a sense of holistic health and well-being, is still in limbo.  While female bisexuality can easily pass for a harmless divertissement, or, to extend the culinary metaphor, a hors d’oeuvre to whet the palate before the real meal, it seems as if bisexual men, equipped with the “weapon” most often considered vehicle of infection, have been saddled with the stigma of aberrant and predatory behavior.

Here are some examples from current social media.  Dan Savage is a major LGBT columnist based in the US who to his credit believes that non-monogamy can be practiced responsibly.[1]  However, when it comes to bisexuality he conspicuously posts derogatory videos on YouTube, as in “The Bizarre World of the Bisexual,” by one “Mister Sharp.”[2]  Why does Savage get mileage with his followers from doing this?  What’s the point of reiterating the litany that bisexual people don’t make “good relationship material”?  Bisexuals, dear Dan, make excellent relationship material depending on the kinds of relationship systems one wants.  Ask me!  I only date men who are bisexual because as an artist of love I appreciate their enhanced capability to know those who are like them and love them intimately.  What could make better “relationship material” than people with a special, inclusive talent for the art of love?  Cultivating those talents is all one has to do![3]  The reason why relationships come apart more often than we’d like sometimes is that we all live in a regime of serial monogamy.  If amorous inclusiveness was more accepted, those with the capability to expand their love would simply add one member to the family. 

One way to assess webs and flows in socially transformative movements is to look at parallels between movements with affinities for one another.  In the early 1990s, at least in the US, the B in LGBT was a catalyst issue.  Female leadership in the bi movement was undisputed.  The issue of inclusion can be compared to the issue of the vote in the women’s equality movement in the early 20th century.  The vote marked a significant turning point in the countries where suffrage was won around World War I.  And yet, for women in those countries, the vote had the side effect of hijacking other important issues, like equal pay for equal work or equality in the home and bedroom.  For women in other countries, the effects were often even worse.  So for the bisexual movement, the B in the LGBT acronym repositioned bisexuals as part of those capable of envisioning a “gay” future for Gaia.  But it also had the double negative effect of temporarily de-energizing the movement based on the perception that a major advantage had been won, and of positioning bisexuality within a cultural location that was not prepared to honor its complexity or understand it for what it was. 
Before the conference, I thought about the biphobia that’s part of my personal experience as a result of my relatively tucked away location in non-metropolitan Western Puerto Rico.  One small example will suffice.  In this region, I was one of the main energizers of the only secular LGBT community discussion group to have prospered in the past 15 years, West PR Friends.  I educated participants about bisexuality and polyamory profusely.  At the end of two years, only 10 percent of members claimed they’d form a relationship with a bisexual person!  That’s how prejudiced the LGBT world still is.  Fortunately, one such person is all I needed.  And I found her!  But for a long time I believed I should have been in London, Paris, New York, or San Francisco.  Part of my involvement with polyamorous communities is a result of them being hospitable havens for bisexuals, and organized as networks that spread their wings over entire regions rather than being based in a specific city.  The experience of BiReCon and BiCon helped me realize my situation is more typical than I thought it would be.  It would appear that when considering bisexuality on a global scale, what we bi activists of the late 20th century aspired to was a modest victory whose cost was just as high and in some cases higher than the prize won.  As erotophilia expanded in the secular mainstream to include LGBT people, the B did provide some protection for bi people.  However, this very same inclusion made bis more vulnerable scapegoats within gay institutions.  As a cultural space where love can be practiced regardless of gender, bisexuality ultimately encourages love for the person.  It is a piece of the puzzle in the project of affirming the force of love.  Today I am even more persuaded that, as a transformative force, bisexuality cannot exist alone.  It intersects with other amorous variants and options that open up horizons for expression to those interested in genuine, authentic, imaginative, and respectful ways to practice love.

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010


BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

[1] See interview by Annie Corrigan, http://kinseyconfidential.org/dan-savage-3-non-monogamous/

[3] This idea of cultivating talent in the arts of loving so as to create complex and fulfilling relationship network systems conducive of creative intelligence and even genius was not lost on people raised in such emotionally sustaining circles.  A good example is Burgo Partridge, raised in the early 20th century in the Bloomsbury literary experimental community, who grew up to be exceptionally knowledgeable in the arts of loving (Partridge 2002).
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“Bisexuality, Gaia, Eros: Portals to the Arts of Loving”


BiReCon: Selected Proceedings from the 2010 Int’l Bisexual Research Conference

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, Keynote Speaker
Part 1 – Preamble: Manifesting Bisexuality, Cont’d
Attending BiReCon put me in touch with research projects funded by the American Institute of Bisexuality.  AIB has been in action on this count.  Its current emphasis on bi men is a way to put the accent where it’s needed.  I tend to date bisexual men because their potential for love is expanded.  They are more likely to enjoy their own erotic receptivity in the arts of loving and to be more adept in feeling the pleasure of the other.  For me that’s the mark of an artist.  I was overjoyed to see my hunch confirmed by research on bi men’s brain function.  Apparently, when given a chance to feel comfortable with their amorous practices, bi men are every bit as healthy, happy, and sound as anybody else.  The only difference is a plus: When it comes to bi men, we find erotophilia in abundance![1] 
 
I also know of course how difficult it is for bi men to be out in their professional lives and as public figures.  Most men tend to rely on their own income for social status and self-definition.  More erotophobic stigma accrues on men based on the myth that women’s sexual capacity is inferior.[2]  Poverty and the economic crisis round up the picture, with special effects on bi men in poor countries and minority groups.[3]  I would have liked to see more of the work of Lisa Diamond on female sexual fluidity and the combination of heritable and circumstantial factors that result in one’s sexual behavior and amorous practices.  Yet, by Diamond’s own admission, that of some of the women she surveyed in the longitudinal study, and from other research accounts, in our time, bisexuality in women is not as publicly stigmatized as it is in men (2008 passim, and Fahs, 2009).  The need to design separate research projects for men and women seemed a result of the different situations faced by the two groups.  Hopefully, AIB will soon develop a parallel research focus on bi women.  Given the high incidence of transgender people in bi communities, it might be wise at some point to design research projects also for this group.  Meanwhile, of course, research in the arts that extol the virtues of bisexual Eros is good too.  At BiReCon 2010, the emphasis on bi men helped to focus on the most deeply seated fears in the way of imagining a world beyond the homo/hetero divide.  Proactive research presented therein shows that, where secular values prevail, young men are less affected by the bi stigma (Ripley and Anderson, in this volume).  Once we wade through these fears, the magic and fun of being bi begins to appear.  Could sexuality be nothing but the sum total of the arts of loving in all their imaginative creativity?
The conference connected me with multiple new aspects of bisexuality in relation to activism, community, and research; aspects I could not have considered so well outside of the context the conference offered.  I refer to the combination of social, local, political, theoretical, global, and intergenerational energies and dynamics brought together by the location, the combination of national, international, and research-focused events, the venue, and the teams of organizers, participants, and presenters.  As that connection became more articulate, I became aware of how utopian, perhaps dystopian, and in any event unrealistic, my original intention was, at least in an immediate range and on a planetary horizon.  As a participant, I was privileged to brush against a whole new generation of bisexuals who grew up while people in my age group were struggling with the early impact of AIDS on sex-positive cultures.  Delegates came from many different countries and world regions.  Bisexuality coexists with homosexuality in all these areas.  However, in some cultures, homosexuality is illegal as in India; or worse, it is relentlessly persecuted, as in Uganda.  In other cultures, a fast forward movement has made strides toward equality for gays and lesbians, as in Spain and the cluster of Latin American countries affiliated with the Iberian peninsula by language and colonial legacy.  Obviously, regimes of coexistence vary with different versions of the homo/hetero divide.  Picking up the aural energies in the context of these discussions opened up my ears.  I became present to the malaise, obstacles, difficulties in the way of reaching out for that portal. 

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BiReCon | 28 BiCon | 10 ICB

Bisexuality Research Conference, 28th Bisexuality Conference, 10th International Conference on Bisexuality, London, UK, August 26-30, 2010


BiReCon Proceedings: A forthcoming issue of The Journal of Bisexuality

[1] This point was made in the presentation by John Sylla, from work in progress that did not make it in this volume. 
[2] Sources on women’s sexual capacity and its expanded multiplicity include Winston 2010, Ley 2009, and Ryan and Jetha 2010. 
[3] My main source is Scott (2007), another useful source is Dworkin (2002).
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