New Paradigms # 1: Gaia Science and Polyamory

New science and cosmology encourage a paradigm shift toward more symbiotic styles of love. We humans are welcome on the third planet under the auspices of our hostess Gaia. If we want to continue to be welcome, we may as well learn from the species who’ve been around quite long, including bacteria, our 4-billion year old ancestors, who have sex with their neighbors all the time for no other reason than to rejuvenate themselves. Bacteria are slightly orgiastic and very symbiotic. They are a good ecosexual model for us. Woooooooow! Watch the video for more info and details!

You’ve watched Segment 1 of 8 from Keynote Address at the 2010 World Polyamory Association Conference, Harbin Hot Springs, California, June 25th, 2010.  Leave a comment on the blog and let us know what you think!
For the gracious auspices of Janet and Kira Lessin, conference organizers extraordinaire. Video and clips courtesy of Steve Hoffman, of Healing Greens, Oakland, videomaker extraordinaire.

The Kindle edition of Gaia and the New Politics of Love will be available soon.  Ecovillages and intentional communities are adopting this book as a model of holistic living in the realm of personal and amorous relationships. Now you can get your copy without wasting a milligram of wood from a single tree!  We welcome your contribution to generating bestsellers for the people and by the people: September 26th is the official date for massive buying of this new, paperless edition (or the paper one).

If we get to be 100th or higher in rank, we can say to have reclaimed bestsellers as creative people’s activism rather than a corporate initiative.  Please mark your calendar for Sunday, September 26th, and hop to the link to make your purchase.  If you choose not to spend money on a Kindle, we completely approve and suggest you download the FREE Kindle for PCs software here.

Oh, and if you’re ready to find out how it did happen that my life became the experiment from which came the theory, don’t hesitate to get all the juicy details from the memoir Eros.

Namaste,
Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
author of Eros, A Journey of Multiple Loves
and many other books

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

How the Wisdom of Love Transforms Gaia: Modeling Choice for Children and Grandchildren

In talking about poly lovestyles, the question of ‘children’ often comes up. “It’s ok as long as only adults are involved, but what about children? Can they be ‘exposed’ to such things and still grow up to be sane and happy people?” Find out all about this and more in this clip. Hear the wisdom of poly grandmothers with two generations of descendants who are happy to have them be part of the family and respect them for who they are!
Here’s another clip from the Double Book Launch on 6/22.  Enjoy and let us know what you think.  And for more info on it all, don’t forget to order your copy of Gaia and the New Politics of Love!

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How the Wisdom of Love Transforms Gaia: Inventing the Families We Need

What is a nuclear family?  How did this type of family come into being?  Whose interests does this invention serve?  When did it become prevalent and why?  What is ‘nuclear’ about it?  Why do some people think it’s the only possible type of family and/or the most advanced one?  What are new ways to think about ‘family’ that better serve the future of our species?
All of this stuff came up when Taj and yours truly were reading at Open Secret Bookstore, at the Double Book Launch we held on June 22.  We promised more details about it, and here we are!
People often ask me about families, and how they became nuclear.  In fact, many even seem to think that families have always been nuclear, that there’s never been another model for what a family is supposed to look like, or even that there is something inherently ‘natural’ to families being of this kind. 
But what is ‘nuclear’ about families, really? Are these kinds of families supposed to explode, like atoms? Are they an invention of the nuclear age? Do they look like atoms, and if so, which ones? Carbon? Oxygen? Hydrogen? Uranium? Perhaps they’ve got some nuclear energy inside, in which case they should be handled carefully, right?  If they are enriched, they can become even more unstable, and that can start the process of atomic fission, where they splinter into little particles.  In this case, they fall under George W’s special category, ‘nukular,’ remember? The famous word that egregious president could not pronounce? 
In any event, and jokes aside, the nuclear family, explosive or not, is a very recent invention.  If we consider the infinite ways in which life has become organized in order to nurture itself through time on the face of our multifarious hostess Gaia, including all of human cultures and the cultures of other species, we find out that in the history of what we may call ‘family,’ the nuclear family is really a split second. Just a blink of the eye. And not the happiest or most interesting one.
The clip explains when and why the nuclear family became prevalent. What kind of paradigm it is part of, and why this paradigm no longer serves life in general, or human life in particular.  Nothing wrong with nuclear families. They serve a purpose. But to move into a Gaian future, the whole idea of what constitutes family must be placed in a much wider horizon.
Check it out!
Yours truly hopes you enjoy the video. Please help us imagine what the video does not say. What families can we invent to met our needs? Suggestions are welcome!
Families are about love, right? So a new politics of love is also a new politics about families, right?  If you’re not sure what’s political about families, find out all about it in Gaia and the New Politics of Love.  

Namaste,

Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

Creating Poly Bestsellers: Reclaiming Book Sales Engineering for our Communities

Hi there again!
This announcement applies to action to be taken the day after tomorrow, July 25th.  It is related to Polyamory in the 21st Century, a book yours truly has read very carefully and recommends with high marks!  Here’s why everyone who reads should get their online order in come Sunday!
For a number of years now bestsellers have been engineered by the book industry.  Lots of books get published every year: in fact it has never been easier to become an ‘author.’  However, which books get into whose hands, who has access to them, who thinks they should, and who, eventually, get the wisdom of these books is another story.  With big conglomerates controlling a great deal of the book production and distribution, the public is often the very last entity to decide what’s worth reading.  That’s why the vast majority of people still believe many very natural ideas to be quite esoteric and radical and eccentric.  Like the idea that we humans can love more than one person at once and can do so in integrity!  Which is of course the very essence of polyamory and also a nugget of very ancient wisdom that has helped people whose love is abundant get by under all kinds of different circumstances.  
The so called ‘social media’ offer tools that help reclaim the ability to create bestsellers.  We don’t have to do it the way the book industry does it, namely by investing big six-digit figures in expensive bill boards that use a lot of paper and destroy a lot of trees and induce false desire to consume what others consume too. No. We can do it digitally and communally, by focusing efforts on ordering online a certain book on a specified date.  The multiple sales made in close proximity send a signal to the digital system that a certain title is highly requested.  This gets attention to the title and author, who then get the advantage of being billed as ‘best sellers’ for the day!
That way the very notion of bestseller (that which sells best) gets redefined as something that certain groups of people prefer for reasons that are close to their hart, that reflect their genuine inclinations and commitments, their thirst for out-of-the-box knowledge, rather than corporate interests. This type of community action helps the book industry realize that all kinds of books generate interest among readers, even books on topics many big publishers would consider too ‘niche,’ radical, or marginal to invest in.  So all in all this reclaiming is a way to favor the general public with a book industry that offers a wider variety of products that respond to a wider range of interests and that presume a higher level of intelligence and decision-making abilities among book buyers and consumers.  
The time has come to activate this best-seller reclaiming system for poly books.  Deborah Taj Anapol’s Polyamory in the 21st Century is coming up for its special day on Sunday, July 25th, which is also a day of very momentous astral coincidences.  So, let’s all coalesce and buy our own copy from Amazon.com on that very day!
Reclaiming bestsellers for our communities is a bit like reclaiming land for sustainable agriculture from agribusiness.  Monoculture is a state of mind, as yours truly learns from Vandana Shiva, author of Monocultures of the Mind, among other amazing books.  It’s a way to colonize our minds with ideas that serve interests foreign to our inherent needs.  In the mind, monocultures are just as pernicious as they can be in the fields.  Think of creating ‘polycultures of the mind’ as you place your order on the 25th.  You can do it directly from this website.    
Thanks for takign action.
Namaste from yours truly, Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

How the Wisdom of Love Transforms Gaia: On Being the Resources We Share

Friends keep telling me that people don’t understand what I mean.  “She uses strange words,” they say, or at least, “she uses words in a strange way.  Why does she do that? What does she really mean?”
“That’s the point,” I think to myself, very shy, very humbled, very timid, “making up new words, new phrases, using words that are unfamiliar, making familiar words sound new.”
That’s the power of words, the power of literature, if you will.  What I was trained in.  (Arhhhhhg, what a mistake to presume one can relinquish some ignorance!)
“These people,” I think, “they really want it easy.  Not only I learned their language so I can speak to them.  But then if I use words of their language that for one reason or another sound queasy, they become suspicious of me.  There’s no way to do right by them!”
“What’s this fear?”  Fear of words.  One cannot be afraid of words.  Words are NOT things.  They only represent things.  Or do they?  Can words also MAKE things?  Can they CHANGE things?  Can they affect, transform, reinterpret, create REALITY?
Of course they can. All poets are keenly aware of this. Otherwise why would they spend time playing with words? 
So, a case in point is this video clip.  From The Wisdom of Love, a double book launch Deborah Taj Anapol and me held at Open Secret Bookstore on June 22, 2010.  It’s a bit late to post.  I know.  Took a long time to figure, with us being a team of wise, wise, wise people.  So ancient is our wisdom that we’re not all that familiar with latest tech stuff for social media. But we get it eventually.  And for this clip, we owe courtesy to Steve Hoffman of Oakaland, California, who shot, cut, and reduced for us.
So, what’s the fun with words here?  Well, “RESOURCES.”  People in ecology, in environmental science talk about ‘resources,’ right?  “Limited resources.”  “Sources of energy that are ‘renewable’,” as in wind, solar, hydro: ways to create power that generate themselves again every day, that are commonly owned/shared.  That don’t involve pollution or extinction of the source when it’s most needed.  See what’s happening with the oil spill.  Easy oil is almost gone now.  And we’re ever more dependent on it.  While it’s also turning our amiable hostess Gaia into an oven.  Ouch! I’m cooking! I’m being cooked!
So then, resources is the issue, right?  Why can’t we BE the resources we seek?  Sounds Oedipal?  It is!  What happens if we begin to think of ourselves as the resources we need?  What if we begin to practice BEING resources for each other?
A whole lot!  Big shift in thinking.  Now we don’t need a lot of resources.  We need to interpret each other AS resources.  And what can we trade that is, as Stan Dale would say, “free”?  We can trade LOVE, or ‘amor,’ or ‘amore,’ or ‘amour’ as those hopelessly Romantic, romance language people would say. 
Then we see that being POLYAMOROUS, being capable, by nurture, by nature (who knows?) of trading these AMOROUS RESOURCES with a whole bunch of people is NOT a dangerous perversion, is NOT a problem, is NOT a liability, is NOT a sign of being promiscuous or a misfit.  IT IS ACTUALLY A VIRTUE!!!
Yes, you heard me.  BEING POLY IS ACTUALLY A VIRTUE!  It should be rewarded as a free recycling system, as a national forest deep-ecology biodiversity sustaining nurturing ecosystem. It should be cause for being nominated for the Nobel Prize for Peace!
“But wait a minute,” you must be saying, “is this for real?”  “Sounds like a trick to justify some wicked perversion.”
Well, I leave the final judgment to you.  It’s on the video.  Somebody in the audience at Open Secret asked “what’s the connection between Gaia the living planet and open love, open relating?”
That’s how I explained it!
Go ahead and listen . . . .
Then, if you like what you hear, you can get more info from the source of my wisdom, Gaia and the New Politics of Love.  This book was inspired by one who IS the pleasure he seeks.  Watch out for the book’s new digital edition, coming soon.  Meanwhile, get your paper version and start practicing love’s wisdom.
There will be more posts and clips.  The momentous series of events we held in Norther California in June-early July will be unfolding digitally as we post clips and snippets, with comments.
We look forward to YOUR comments too!
Namaste,
Gaia

a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

What’s This New Politics of Love That People Wonder About?

Could it be as simple as an ecosexual politics of love where Eros makes peace with Gaia? 
These wise women have it all figured out.  Find out from what they write and then lobby for their ideas with Obama!

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Deborah Taj Anapol, and Dossie Easton at Open Secret Bookstore in San Rafael, Ca, on July 3rd celebrating Interdependence Day as they outline the future of love on Planet Earth.

We will be back with more about this historic event where the future of love on the planet was outlines.  Meanwhile, please send us your thoughts, ideas, comments, poems, rants, plans, critiques, strategies.  What’s a new politics of love that would serve Gaia and us?  What does it look, feel, smell, taste like to you?  tell us and we will publish it on Poly Planet GAIA!
do you call yourself ‘ecosexual’?  would you date someone who does?  if yes, or no, why?

‘Ecosexual,’ the new ‘sexual orientation people use in personal ads, we learn from Annie Sprinkle, ‘sybaritic cougar,’ and participant extraordinaire.  Do you call yourself ‘ecosexual’? Would you date someone who does? If yes, or no, why?

Annie Sprinkle, Beth Stephens, Cunning Minx: more love, more wisdom! 

We will be back with more about this historic event where the future of love on the planet was outlines.  Meanwhile, please send us your thoughts, ideas, comments, poems, rants, plans, critiques, strategies.  What’s a new politics of love that would serve Gaia and us?  What does it look, feel, smell, taste like to you?  Tell us and we will publish it on Poly Planet GAIA!
And, don’t forget to look up for ‘ecosexual’ dates next time you go out!
Namaste,
Wise Woman Extraordinaire, Serena
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

The Wisdom of Love at Open Secret – Yesterday in San Rafael, Ca.

The Wisdom of Love at Open Secret was the kick off event of the season and it went really well.  We were in a wonderful room, known as The Gallery.  The decor was exotic and artistic, a whole series of statues and other art pieces from India and other countries from the “Far East,” where the arts of loving are still known and cultivated by common people (unlike the West, where they’ve been coopted under the aegis of “science,” a modality of knowledge that tends to “normalize” things, endlessly search for some kind of normativity).
   Deborah Taj Anapol, our assistant, and me arrived quite early, and in common agreement decided to enhance the “Oriental” flavor of the event by sitting on the floor, our backs to the center piece: An invitation to attendees to share “the floor” with us, to see us as equals, rather than as “those in the know” who stand up on the podium.  
   We noticed diversity in age groups, background, and other as people milled in.  Greeting people we knew, in those expansive, affectionate ways typical of poly people, was beautiful.  Many new people came in too.  The last touches were put on the sound system, the display table, the videos.  We were blessed with two video makers and their equipment shooting footage throughout the reading.
   We intended a synergy, so each speaker introduced the other speaker’s book.  It was good to hear someone whose work I respect so much speak publicly about mine.  Taj definitely did a good job of it.  And I hope I did too.  As the event unfolded, I noticed the presence of my co-speaker, the way she connects with the audience, she relates to them, she is confident they will hear.  Won’t necessarily try to please them.  But make them feel alive, yes, she will.  She tucks in a little bit of irony here and there too.  I feel proud to be in this space.  I tuck in a tid bit of irony too, when I make sure people know I’m from Italy but I don’t make pizza: Instead, I study history, which leads me into commenting on Anapol’s wonderful job of weaving the multiple threads of polyamory’s modern history.
   People keep coming in, finding nooks to tuck themselves in, more chairs brought into the room for those unwilling to imitate our yogic positions.  Everybody seems comfy enough in this heart-opening space.  We go across the room asking people to introduce themselves: “What brings you here? why is polyamory interesting to you?”  This is California and I’m always amazed about how much people are willing to share–even in a room full of strangers–about themselves, their personal experiences.  My mind goes back to the early years of my arrival in this region, when I was so impressed by this behavior, this trust, this willingness, this faith that if you put out what resonates as authentic for you, then your eagerness will attract toward you exactly what you wish.  And I took that one on big time of course when I put out my own slightly disguised life story in my first narrative book, Eros, which managed, as it were, to attract into my life exactly what I wished.  With all this eager way of being into the world that I’ve sucked in, I’m reminded of why I call California my second matria (she/homeland), with the first one being Italy and the third one Puerto Rico.
   Next section is the actual reading.  I go first and read a very short piece.  There is attention, eagerness in the room.  I am careful.  I know what I have to say does not sound pleasant to all people.  That the Earth is not a “mother” who loves us and protects us.  That, according to scientists, Gaia, the live planet, is actually a “tough botch” who will get of us if we continue to abuse her.  There are many attentive minds in the room, I sense the words begin to resonate with people, “unusual words this foreigner speaks, she uses our language, but why does she say such strange, such outrageous things? And why, strangely enough, some of them begin to make sense too?”  We pause for questions, and there are many more than we can answer.  The synergy begins to work there too.  Anapol and I find ourselves answering each other’s questions.  In other words, there is a question and I take it, then she pitches in and the answer becomes more complete.    
  Then her turn comes to read.  She announces a couple of things.  She begins to read from the chapter about why people choose polyamory.  Of course her theory is smart and minimalist: “people choose polyamory for a variety of reasons.”  In other words, “if you, reader, were expecting some pathological explanation for why one would make such an unusual choice, you’re not going to get one here.  I am the expert, and I guarantee you: Reasons are so different that no single, unique cause does exist.  So, get used to it!” 
   Love comes in many shapes, and the more the better.  
   Anapol’s reading time is quite short too. 
   Interesting questions start to come in, and the discussion opens up as we take turns and offer different takes on them.  Many more hands are up with a bunch of interesting ideas, desire to put them on the table, debate them.   We realize time has run out.  It’s almost time for the store to close.  We are quite happy that we’ve created such multifarious interests.  We break up the circle.  Invite everyone to join us again on July 3rd too.  
   There is a little more time to wrap things up.  A few people approach me, they want copies of the books. Others approach Anapol.  Unfortunately, her book, the three-cherry-cover book, has not arrived yet.  Que lastima! my friends would say in Puerto Rico.  I write down a few dedications, signatures.  It’s good to think that these people will read for themselves, will make the effort to stretch their imagination as far as I intend to take them.  Maybe some of them will let me know what they think, they will inspire me for next project.  
   Goodbyes are another golden opportunity to manifest poly expansiveness, to express our willingness to share love and affection.  More hugs, more eye contact and warm thank yous.  We even manage a quick three-way hug with two of the participants.  Time to thank the host and pack our things.  We realize the filming has been going on very smoothly, unobtrusively.  It’s like, there was filming, but this wasn’t about being filmed.  it just happened, naturally, with the process of recording integrated in the real thing.  We haven’t even had the time to thank the video makers, they’ve already disappeared.  We get our things out to the car.  
   It feels like the end of a good evening.  
   We’re off to Harbin Hot Springs tomorrow for the World Polyamory Association meeting. 
   Posted by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio
   Oakland, Ca., June 23, 2010
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

Explore the Future of Love on Interdependence Day! – Anapol, Easton, Anderlini in Bay Area, June 22 to July 3 – Promotions and Full Calendar

Is humanity at war with Mother Earth?  Can the wisdom of love save the day?
Three pioneers of polyamory come together in the Bay Area to share experiences with you in a momentous series of events.



Deborah Taj Anapol, Dossie Easton, and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio: June 22nd to July 3rd.

As buried fossils from liquefied ancient forests gush to the Earth’s scorched surface, humanity realizes it is at war with Gaia, the gracious hostess that has allowed our blessed species to grow.  In science, a host and a guest are symbiotic, a form of love.  But what happens when the guest inadvertently tries to kill the host?  Can the wisdom of love help to bring this mutually destructive war come to an end?  Intuitively, we know it can.  But do we know enough about love to use it as an effective remedy?
Between June 22nd and July 3rd three wise women in polyamory will be in the Bay Area to explore the future of love on planet Earth. Dossie Easton, Deborah Taj Anapol, and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, authors of groundbreaking works, can explain how the arts of loving can contribute to the health of planetary life.  The ecosexual movement brings this need for planetary balance to the surface.  What’s the role of Eros, the energy of love, in keeping Gaia, the planet, in balance with herself?  With a total of over 100 years of practicing, studying, and teaching poly love all over the world, Easton, Anapol, and Anderlini put their wisdom on the table and open up their store of experience to lead this epic journey into the future of love.  There isn’t a position they haven’t tried, a sexualoving event they haven’t hosted, a taboo they haven’t broken, an open relationship they haven’t been part of.  Each has been a pioneer in some area of erotic expression related to planetary consciousness.  Whether you’re a visitor or a resident, it’s a momentous time to be in the Bay Area, where they’ve chosen to bring the wisdom of love.  If you’re a conscious lover, a healer, a sex-positive person, you can’t afford not to participate!
Calendar:
June 22nd, Open Secret Bookstore, San Rafael, 7-9 PM

The Wisdom of Love

Double book launch for Deborah Taj Anapol’s and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio’s latest books: Polyamory in the 21st Century and Gaia and the New Politics of Love, respectively.
A Silver Winner in Cosmology and New Science for the 2010 Nautilus Book Award, Gaia is a political theory that claims education in the arts of loving is humanity’s wisest way out of our unwinnable war against planet Earth.  These arts include sharing pleasure, cultivating amorous resources, and practicing holistic sexual health.  When Anapol read Gaia, she exclaimed: “I’m so glad Serena wrote this book because now I don’t have to! In 1992, I said that polyamory is good for the planet. Serena has done a masterful job of fully explaining exactly what this statement means.”  Anapol’s Polyamory in the 21st Century (to be released imminently), resonates with Anderlini’s intent to expand the horizon of polyamory on the future of love.  The author taps on her wide ranging travels to present polyamory as the force that can transform the practice of love across cultures and continents.  Polyamory is a movement with deep roots in the Bay Area.  The two authors are coming together from Puerto Rico and Hawaii respectively to present its wide ranging effects and transformative, ecosexual, healing ramifications around the globe.
Prepaid door charge is only $ 6 per person if three sign up.  Sign up for both the 6/22 and the 7/3 events, and you get a signed copy of Serena’s memoir Eros at the workshop (a value of $ 35). 

July 3rd, Open Secret Bookstore, San Rafael, 11AM-7PM

Three Wise Women on Polyamory Explore the Future of Love on Planet Earth

Dossie Easton, author of acclaimed classic of poly education, The Ethical Slut, now on its second edition, joins Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio in this one-day experiential journey into love.
Through multiple perspectives of three expert facilitators, the workshop will address related questions, including:  Can we practice love so as to end the war our species is perpetrating on mother Earth?  What’s a Gaian way to be sexual, or ecosexual? Is Gaia an ecological path to the communion, the joy, the pleasure of erotic ecstasy?  How can a healthy politics of love be put into effect on a local and global scale?  How can we practice polyamory in emotionally and ecologically sustainable ways?  These are some of the question the journey will explore in practical and discursive ways.
If you’ve been to the June 22nd reading, the workshop expands your experience on a deeper level.  The paradigm shift toward a Gaian awareness has great possibilities for those with the potential to love more than one person.  The workshop brings this awareness to your body at the cellular level.  If the workshop is your first attendance, it  brings you up to speed and complements the theory with the experiential level.
Whether you are straight, monogamous, gay, polyamorous, bisexual, lesbian, polysexual, ecosexual, asexual, metrosexual, or any other preference; whether you are female, male, intersex, transgender or any other gender; regardless of your relationship status, age, nationality, trade, profession, race, ethnicity, religion, spiritual practice, this workshop exposes you to an awesome combination of perspectives on the arts of loving practiced today.  It helps to access the multiple ways that these practices can serve one’s personal, communal, ecosystemic, and planetary health.
As part of a planet whose body is alive, we humans are already always related.  Planetary consciousness corresponds to the potential of this overall relatedness.  The challenge in creating a sustainable amorous life is actualizing each potential in the most authentic way.  As Easton says, “Each relationship finds its own level, if you let it.”  The combined wisdom of Anapol, Easton, and Anderlini creates the space where your own potential can manifest.  Anapol emphasizes polyamory’s potential to design a future for love on planet Earth.  Easton explores multipartnering as key to embrace hidden yet essential aspects of our nature. Anderlini connects our amorous potential to Gaia’s planetary consciousness.  As you bask in these multiple wisdoms of love, you can surely synergize your own.
When three wise women of polyamory invite you to be part of the unique series of events that brings them together, you better treasure this opportunity coming your way!  The cost of a day that could change your life forever is only $ 63 per person.  It goes down to $ 45 when you sign up by June 25th along with two friends!  Team up with others intent in saving the planet and participate!  Please plan to be on time.  There will be a lunch break.  A healthy meal will be available on site for a reasonable extra charge.  Please spread the word to amorous communities and networks.  You can preorder your books as well.
7/3 – Full Price with 1, 2, 3 Person Discounts – Last day is July 2nd

Sign up for both the reading and the workshop, and you get a signed copy of Serena’s memoir Eros at the workshop (a value of $ 35). 

June 25-27, World Polyamory Association, Harbin Hot Springs

Deborah Taj Anapol and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio are also coming together at this wonderful conference that combines poly and tantra.  Their talks are scheduled on the 25th and 26th respectively.  Join them at one of the most holistic naturist retreats in the world.
Registration still open. See details on WPA webpage.  Click here for discounted rates until June 20
About the Authors:

Deborah Taj Anapol, PhD, is a relationship coach who leads seminars on love, sex and intimacy all over the country and around the world.  She is the author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, The Seven Natural Laws of Love, and Polyamory in the 21st Century.  Website: www.lovewithoutlimits.com.  “Let jealousy be your teacher.”

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a professor of humanities at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez. She is the author of Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, and Gaia and the New Politics of Love.  She teaches and lectures about the practice of love and the science of Gaia.  Blog: http://polyplanet.blogspot.com. “A world where it is safe to love is a world where it is safe to live.”

Dossie Easton is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in San Francisco.  She is co-author with Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut, now in its second edition, and Radical Ecstasy.  She lectures and leads workshops on polyamory and ecstatic spiritual practices at conferences and universities.  Website: www.dossieeaston.com. “Each relationship will seek its own level like water if you let it.” 

Choose the wisdom of love for your interdependence calendar!
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

The Wisdom of Love – A Double Book Launch – June 22 – San Rafael, CA – 7 PM

Deborah Taj Anapol and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio
discuss 
The Wisdom of Love 
in their new books 
Polyamory in the 21st Century 
and 
Gaia and the New Politics of Love
in this unique double book launch 

Is the love of wisdom nothing but the wisdom of love?
What’s the future of love on planet Earth?
Why write about polyamory today? 
Two wise poly women writers answer your questions!
                                    
                                                DATE: Tuesday, June 22
                                                TIME: 7 PM
                                                Cost Per Person
                                                          $ 8   Prepaid ($ 10 at door)
                                                          $ 14 Prepaid with signed copy of Gaia
                                                Deep discounts when you treat friends!
                                                WHERE: Open Secret Bookstore 
                                                                   923 C St.
                                                                   San Rafael, CA
                            Due to limited space, RSVP early!

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 Book Descriptions:
Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners, by Deborah Taj Anapol, provides a perceptive overview of the whole range of intimate relationships that don’t conform to our culture’s monogamous ideal but endeavor to be honest, ethical, and consensual. It addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, yet often challenging lifestyle while shedding light on the reasons people choose polyamory and how their lives have changed as a result. Drawing on recent findings from many disciplines, Polyamory in the 21st Century helps the reader comprehend the dynamics of long term open marriages as well as more tribal and fluid intimate networks and everything in between. ON SALE IN EARLY JULY!  (Rowman & Littlefield, 2010)
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Deborah Taj Anapol, PhD, has taught psychology and human sexuality at the University of Washington in Seattle and Antioch University in San Francisco, and has led seminars on love, sex, and intimacy all over the country and around the world. She is the author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits and The Seven Natural Laws of Love.

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Multisectorial Strike and Occupation at the University of Puerto Rico, All 11 Campuses, Supporting Public Education, Resisting Privatization

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In Puerto Rico, an ongoing strike by students at the University of
Puerto Rico is coming to a head. Riot police have surrounded the main
gates of the university’s main campus and are trying to break the
strike by denying food and water to students who have occupied the
campus inside. The strike began nearly four weeks ago in response to
budget cuts at the university of more than $100 million. On Thursday,
a mass assembly of more than 3,000 students voted overwhelmingly to
continue the strike. The next day, riot police seized control of the
main campus gates. We go now to Puerto Rico, inside the occupied
campus at the university. [includes rush transcript]

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http://www.democracynow.org/2010/5/17/student_strike_at_university_of_puerto

Guests:

Giovanni Roberto, student at the University of Puerto Rico and a
spokesperson for the striking students.

Christopher Powers, professor of comparative literature at University
of Puerto Rico.

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AMY GOODMAN: In Puerto Rico, an ongoing strike by students at the
University of Puerto Rico is coming to a head. Riot police have
surrounded the main gates of the university and are trying to break
the strike by denying food and water to students who have occupied the
campus inside.

The strike began nearly four weeks ago in response to budget cuts at
the university of more than $100 million. Students called on the
administration to reconsider the cuts and sought guarantees, such as
no fee increases and no privatization of campus services. Students
initially called for a forty-eight-hour strike, but more than three
weeks later the strike continues and has spread to ten out of eleven
campuses. On Thursday, a mass assembly of more than 3,000 students
voted overwhelmingly to continue the strike. The next day, riot police
seized control of the main campus gates.

The striking students have received widespread support from professors
at the university, as well as unions around the country. Crowds have
gathered outside the university gates, where police have encircled the
striking students inside. Parents, family members, other supporters
have tried to throw bottles of water and food over the fence to
support the strikers.

We go now to Puerto Rico inside the occupied campus at the university,
where we’re joined by Giovanni Roberto, a student at the University of
Puerto Rico and a spokesperson for the striking students. We’re also
joined by a professor at the university, outside the campus, who’s
supporting the students. Christopher Powers is a professor of
comparative literature at UPR. He joins us on the phone.

We welcome you both to Democracy Now! Giovanni, we’ll begin with you.
Describe the scene right now and what your demands are.

GIOVANNI ROBERTO: Hi, Amy, and hi, people watching.

Our first—our main demand was that we reject certification of the
trustees of the university that tried to limit the tuition waivers to
students. Especially they tried to make people that have a Pell Grant
or other economic help not to be part of the tuition waiver, which in
the University of Puerto Rico, which is a public university, most of
students have economic aids in order to go to the university and
study. So we identify that the administration, what they wanted to do
is to attack especially poor students, trying to limit their right to
have a tuition waiver.

Right now in the university, we are inside. We remain for more than
twenty-seven days on strikes. We are occupying the whole campuses. As
you say, ten out of eleven campuses are shut down by students. Inside
the university is calm. We are—we have been receiving a lot of people
outside the fences helping us to resist the possibility of the police
to get in.

Since the first day, the administration demonstrate no will to
negotiate with students. Our first demand was that they’re beginning
to negotiate. We only want to negotiate with the administration our
demands. We have been working for more than one year. And after that,
we have no other solution than to go on strike, as we’re doing now,
trying to push the administration to negotiate. And they only use the
force. They’re trying to get the police in and trying to make us get
out. And that’s one of the demands.

AMY GOODMAN: Let me bring Professor Powers into this, professor at the
University of Puerto Rico. Can you talk about the scene there, as
well, the students outside, the professors—the students inside, the
professors outside?

CHRISTOPHER POWERS: Yes. Well, thank you for having me on the show.

I’m a professor at the Mayagüez campus of the UPR, so I’m not in San
Juan right now. But I can report that the strike is being maintained
at all of the eleven campuses—that’s a minor correction—because the
eleventh campus was closed today by the staff union, which represents
about 2,000 maintenance workers in the system. The staff union has
also closed the administrative buildings, the central administrative
buildings located in the botanical gardens, this morning. They moved
in heavy machinery, closing the gates, and have called for a weeklong
strike in support of the students. So all of the campuses are closed
right now. And the union is calling for the closure, as well, of
auxiliary institutions, as well. So the strike has indeed spread to
the entire system.

It has also sparked widespread support on the part of professors, for
one, but also the broad public. Parents are involved in supporting the
students in an unprecedented way compared with the strikes in the
past. The use of force to close the main campus has sparked wide
sympathy with the students. It should also be noted that the
University of Puerto Rico is a university of 64,000 students. It’s the
largest university in the Caribbean. And it’s also the premier
institution of higher learning in the country. It’s considered part of
the cultural patrimony of the island. It has produced the island’s
best and brightest. And in the context of the colonial status of the
island, in which historically so much of Puerto Rican—Puerto Rico’s
resources have been sold out to foreigners, the UPR is widely regarded
as the last best resource that the nation has to keep. So attack on
the integrity of the institution, the restriction of access for
working-class students, and the fears of privatization of the
university have sparked very wide public support.

AMY GOODMAN: Who controls the budget exactly, I mean, in relation—for
people on the mainland in the United States, given the relationship
between the United States and Puerto Rico?

CHRISTOPHER POWERS: Right. Well, the budget of the university is
controlled by the presidency and the board of trustees. According to a
law from 1966, 9.6 percent of the income into the general funds of
Puerto Rico are to be used by the university. However, the current
conservative, pro-statehood New Progressive Party government issued a
law called “Law No. 7,” which is widely unpopular on the island, which
gave them emergency powers to effect fiscal measures. And this law has
been implemented in the, oh, year-and-a-half or so of the Fortuño
administration to lay off public workers, and now it’s been applied to
deny funds that have been historically available to the university.
This has caused a deficit which could be $100 million or more,
although those are based on estimates at this point.

At any rate, the austerity measures that the board of trustees and the
presidency are trying to impose have been disproportionately directed
at students, professors and staff and have not at all touched the
bloated budgets for the central administration and the chancellors’
offices. So there’s a very—you know, a sense of injustice and
unfairness in the application of the austerity measures, and the
students are not taking it. They have maintained the strike and
haven’t budged from the camps that they’ve set up at the gates of the
various universities.

It’s a very multi-sectorial movement, the students. It’s not just the
traditional activists who are protesting. The tuition waivers that
Giovanni was mentioning apply to groups like athletes and musicians,
so these students are also involved in the protests. It’s a very
exciting movement. And the mood is quite electric. And the students,
like I’ve said, have inspired a lot of inspiration and support on the
part of the population. There’s a phrase circulating now that this new
generation of students is the basta ya generation, the “enough is
enough” generation.

AMY GOODMAN: Giovanni Roberto, what are your plans now, with the SWAT
teams having moved in? Where do you go from here?

GIOVANNI ROBERTO: Well, we’re still demanding the administration to
negotiate, actually. I think the general strike called for tomorrow is
a good step forward in order to push the administration and push the
government, as part of that administration, to sit down in the table
of negotiation. We’re only demanding that we need to negotiate our
demands.

Right now, we’re going to still have—we’re going to continue to
strike. We are not going to let us intimidate by the police. We know
that if the people remain supporting us, as they have been doing for
the last three weeks, we don’t think the police are going to get in or
try to get in, because that will be a political—a serious political
problem for the government, because we think that all that support, in
water and food or in picket lines in front of the university, will
transform in mass mobilization in this country. And that’s what we’re
hoping, that all of that solidarity that have been expressed in
different ways in the last three weeks transform, today and tomorrow
and the rest of the weeks, in mass mobilization and mass protest,
especially in the strike of tomorrow. So we are going to remain on
strike, and we’re going to continue asking negotiation with the
administration.

AMY GOODMAN: Have you had support from students on the mainland United
States? And what have been the effect, for example, of the student
protests in California? Have you been following them, Giovanni?

GIOVANNI ROBERTO: Yeah, we received a letter of students and
professors of Berkeley and CUNY in New York, from Canada, from Spain,
from Venezuela, and from other countries, from República Dominicana.
We have received international attention, because, like in California,
we are receiving attacks, a budget cuts attack. And we think that the
defense of the public university obviously is not only here in Puerto
Rico; it’s an international fight against privatization and against
things that affect students. So, obviously, what happened in
California affects us. Before the strike, we made two occupations of
two faculties, in some way inspired by what’s happened in Berkeley and
the fight that Berkeley was having there. So I think for them to us
and from our fight to them, there’s a relationship between our fight
and an inspiration, a mutual inspiration, right now.

AMY GOODMAN: I understand there was a father who was trying to bring
food to his son, a student inside, who was attacked. Giovanni Roberto,
what happened?

GIOVANNI ROBERTO: Yeah, he was trying to get in bread and water, which
is in the morning for breakfast, and the police attacked him and
pushed him to the ground and then arrested him in front of all the
students. We have a video of that. That same day, in the morning, too,
another student was trying to get in, and the police attacked the
student, pushed him to the ground, hit him while he was on the ground,
and then arrested him. That happened two days, yesterday, happened
again with artists that wanted to get food inside the
university—actors, singers, famous Puerto Rican singers. They didn’t
allow them to get food, and they had to throw it over the fences in
order to get the water inside the university. There’s a law that don’t
allow any food or water to get in, according to a judge.

So, right now the situation is tense outside. We have more food than
ever. That’s important to people to know. We are creating ways to get
food and water inside. And the solidarity of the people is so
impressed that now we have food like for two weeks. So even there you
see the picture. No matter the police, what try the police, we know
that we’re going to continue the strike and that we’re going to win
this strike. We have the whole country on our side. We have the right
to do this. And we are defending only public education, public
university. That’s not a crime. One of our slogans is that we are
students, not—we’re not making crimes, you know? So—

AMY GOODMAN: Christopher Powers, the support of unions, can you talk
about that, like the AFL-CIO?

CHRISTOPHER POWERS: Yes. Well, there’s a general strike called for
tomorrow. This strike was called both by the coalition of unions,
which includes the Change to Win, the Federation of Workers of Puerto
Rico, the Puerto Rican Workers Union representing a broad variety of
the union groups and leaders. It’s also being called for by all of
Puerto Rico for Puerto Rico. The spokesperson, Juan Vera, the
Methodist bishop, called for massive support and all of the members of
this coalition of community and religious groups, known for their
involvement in the Free Vieques movement, to participate in the
strike. And as I mentioned earlier, also the staff union of the
university is going on strike for the entire week and closed down the
central administration facilities, as well as auxiliary facilities. So
the union support for the students is massive.

AMY GOODMAN: This is hardly getting attention on the mainland. Can you
talk about that lack of press coverage?

CHRISTOPHER POWERS: Well, I suppose one could relate that to— again,
to the colonial status of Puerto Rico. This is really, I think, in my
opinion, a very important struggle, in that the University of Puerto
Rico is more important for Puerto Rico than, say, public universities
in the States are for their states. And so, what is happening now is
that the students are defending the right to a quality public
education, that they are staying firm in the face of the attack on the
integrity of the institution, the restriction of access for
working-class students, and they are really serving as a model, as
Eduardo Galeano wrote in a message of support to the students. He says
that they are showing the shining path towards the future, while the
rest of the world gets used to what is already there.

AMY GOODMAN: Christopher Powers, we’ll have to leave it there,
professor at the University of Puerto Rico. Giovanni Roberto, student,
one of the student leaders of the strike, speaking to us from inside
the campus that they are occupying. Tomorrow, a major strike called
across Puerto Rico, and of course we will cover it.

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