New Paradigms # 4: Gaia, the Sacred and the Material

When we separate the sacred from the material, we come to delude ourselves that matter is inert, that it won’t react against our tyranny, our abuse, that we won’t be held accountable for disrespecting it. But is matter really inert? Hasn’t science taught us that matter is energy in a different form?

You’ve watched Segment 4 of 8 from Keynote Address at the 2010 World Polyamory Association Conference, Harbin Hot Springs, California, June 25th, 2010.  Leave a comment on the blog and let us know what you think!
For the gracious auspices of Janet and Kira Lessin, conference organizers extraordinaire. Video and clips courtesy of Steve Hoffman, of Healing Greens, Oakland, videomaker extraordinaire. 
The Kindle edition of Gaia and the New Politics of Love will be available soon.  Ecovillages and intentional communities are adopting this book as a model of holistic living in the realm of personal and amorous relationships. Now you can get your copy without wasting a milligram of wood from a single tree!  We welcome your contribution to generating bestsellers for the people and by the people: September 26th is the official date for massive buying of this new, paperless edition (or the paper one).

If we get to be 100th or higher in rank, we can say to have reclaimed bestsellers as creative people’s activism rather than a corporate initiative.  Please mark your calendar for Sunday, September 26th, and hop to the link to make your purchase.  If you choose not to spend money on a Kindle, we completely approve and suggest you download the FREE Kindle for PCs software here.

Oh, and if you’re ready to find out how it did happen that my life became the experiment from which came the theory, don’t hesitate to get all the juicy details from the memoir Eros.

Namaste,
Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
author of Eros, A Journey of Multiple Loves
and many other books

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

Keynote – BiReCon, London, UK, August 26, 2010

BiReCon, London, UK, 1:30 PM, August 26, 2010, Univ of East London, Dockland Campus
Keynote Address
Gaia & the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Bi Planet

In the new politics of love that enables humanity to make peace with our hostess planet Gaia, love is an art, not a science, a cure, not a disease.  Bisexuality is a portal to practicing these arts of loving in a gender inclusive manner.  When we understand love as an art, we feel the affinity between the arts of loving and the arts of healing.  The practice, awareness, and theory of bisexuality are key to the paradigm shift that will usher in this new global culture.  The world revolutionized by the arts of loving will be a “world where it is safe to live because it is a world where it is safe to love.”


Best opportunity to connect with Bi communities locally and worldwide! 

BiReCon Online Registration 
August 26-30, 2010

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio gave the keynote address at the 2007 Loving More and World Polyamory Association conferences.  She has been interviewed on Italian public TV about her books on practices of love that include bisexuality and polyamory.  She is an academic, an activist, a writer and a healer.  Her numerous books include Gaia and the New Politics of Love (2009), Lambda finalist Eros (2007), Plural Loves (2005), Women and Bisexuality (2005), and Bisexuality and Queer Theory (2010).  She leads workshops on Gaia, Eros, & the SacredShe has been published in and peer-reviews for several journals.  She is a professor of humanities at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez, and lives in Cabo Rojo, Western Puerto Rico.
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

New Paradigms # 3: Gaia is Gay!

Why should anyone believe that nature is heterosexual? Where could this belief possibly come from? The word Gaia means ‘gay’ in Italian. It means cheerful, happy, playful diverse. Isn’t that the way our planet is?

You’ve watched Segment 3 of 8 from Keynote Address at the 2010 World Polyamory Association Conference, Harbin Hot Springs, California, June 25th, 2010.  Leave a comment and let us know what you think!

For the gracious auspices of Janet and Kira Lessin, conference organizers extraordinaire. Video and clips courtesy of Steve Hoffman, of Healing Greens, Oakland, videomaker extraordinaire.

The Kindle edition of Gaia and the New Politics of Love will be available soon.  Ecovillages and intentional communities are adopting this book as a model of holistic living in the realm of personal and amorous relationships. Now you can get your copy without wasting a milligram of wood from a single tree!  We welcome your contribution to generating bestsellers for the people and by the people: September 26th is the official date for massive buying of this new, paperless edition (or the paper one).

If we get to be 100th or higher in rank, we can say to have reclaimed bestsellers as creative people’s activism rather than a corporate initiative.  Please mark your calendar for Sunday, September 26th, and hop to the link to make your purchase.  If you choose not to spend money on a Kindle, we completely approve and suggest you download the FREE Kindle for PCs software here.

Oh, and if you’re ready to find out how it did happen that my life became the experiment from which came the theory, don’t hesitate to get all the juicy details from the memoir Eros.

Namaste,
Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
author of Eros, A Journey of Multiple Loves
and many other books

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

New Paradigms # 2: Gaia as a Force of Nature

Ancient Greek mythology teaches us that certain forces of nature are more powerful than any human can be. Gaia, the earth; Aeolus, the wind; Uranus, the sky; Chronos, time; Eros, the force of love. This power has been in our face with the oil spill in the Gulf. A good time to relearn the lessons of mythology: why fight battles that cannot be won? The mythological aspect of Gaia theory connects us with our own very nature as well. Another good reason to encourage poly and other ecosexual styles of love.

You’ve watched Segment 2 of 8 from Keynote Address at the 2010 World Polyamory Association Conference, Harbin Hot Springs, California, June 25th, 2010.  Leave a comment on the blog and let us know what you think!
For the gracious auspices of Janet and Kira Lessin, conference organizers extraordinaire. Video and clips courtesy of Steve Hoffman, of Healing Greens, Oakland, videomaker extraordinaire.

The Kindle edition of Gaia and the New Politics of Love will be available soon.  Ecovillages and intentional communities are adopting this book as a model of holistic living in the realm of personal and amorous relationships. Now you can get your copy without wasting a milligram of wood from a single tree!  We welcome your contribution to generating bestsellers for the people and by the people: September 26th is the official date for massive buying of this new, paperless edition (or the paper one).

If we get to be 100th or higher in rank, we can say to have reclaimed bestsellers as creative people’s activism rather than a corporate initiative.  Please mark your calendar for Sunday, September 26th, and hop to the link to make your purchase.  If you choose not to spend money on a Kindle, we completely approve and suggest you download the FREE Kindle for PCs software here.

Oh, and if you’re ready to find out how it did happen that my life became the experiment from which came the theory, don’t hesitate to get all the juicy details from the memoir Eros.

Namaste,
Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
author of Eros, A Journey of Multiple Loves
and many other books

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

New Paradigms # 1: Gaia Science and Polyamory

New science and cosmology encourage a paradigm shift toward more symbiotic styles of love. We humans are welcome on the third planet under the auspices of our hostess Gaia. If we want to continue to be welcome, we may as well learn from the species who’ve been around quite long, including bacteria, our 4-billion year old ancestors, who have sex with their neighbors all the time for no other reason than to rejuvenate themselves. Bacteria are slightly orgiastic and very symbiotic. They are a good ecosexual model for us. Woooooooow! Watch the video for more info and details!

You’ve watched Segment 1 of 8 from Keynote Address at the 2010 World Polyamory Association Conference, Harbin Hot Springs, California, June 25th, 2010.  Leave a comment on the blog and let us know what you think!
For the gracious auspices of Janet and Kira Lessin, conference organizers extraordinaire. Video and clips courtesy of Steve Hoffman, of Healing Greens, Oakland, videomaker extraordinaire.

The Kindle edition of Gaia and the New Politics of Love will be available soon.  Ecovillages and intentional communities are adopting this book as a model of holistic living in the realm of personal and amorous relationships. Now you can get your copy without wasting a milligram of wood from a single tree!  We welcome your contribution to generating bestsellers for the people and by the people: September 26th is the official date for massive buying of this new, paperless edition (or the paper one).

If we get to be 100th or higher in rank, we can say to have reclaimed bestsellers as creative people’s activism rather than a corporate initiative.  Please mark your calendar for Sunday, September 26th, and hop to the link to make your purchase.  If you choose not to spend money on a Kindle, we completely approve and suggest you download the FREE Kindle for PCs software here.

Oh, and if you’re ready to find out how it did happen that my life became the experiment from which came the theory, don’t hesitate to get all the juicy details from the memoir Eros.

Namaste,
Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
author of Eros, A Journey of Multiple Loves
and many other books

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

How the Wisdom of Love Transforms Gaia: Modeling Choice for Children and Grandchildren

In talking about poly lovestyles, the question of ‘children’ often comes up. “It’s ok as long as only adults are involved, but what about children? Can they be ‘exposed’ to such things and still grow up to be sane and happy people?” Find out all about this and more in this clip. Hear the wisdom of poly grandmothers with two generations of descendants who are happy to have them be part of the family and respect them for who they are!
Here’s another clip from the Double Book Launch on 6/22.  Enjoy and let us know what you think.  And for more info on it all, don’t forget to order your copy of Gaia and the New Politics of Love!

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How the Wisdom of Love Transforms Gaia: Inventing the Families We Need

What is a nuclear family?  How did this type of family come into being?  Whose interests does this invention serve?  When did it become prevalent and why?  What is ‘nuclear’ about it?  Why do some people think it’s the only possible type of family and/or the most advanced one?  What are new ways to think about ‘family’ that better serve the future of our species?
All of this stuff came up when Taj and yours truly were reading at Open Secret Bookstore, at the Double Book Launch we held on June 22.  We promised more details about it, and here we are!
People often ask me about families, and how they became nuclear.  In fact, many even seem to think that families have always been nuclear, that there’s never been another model for what a family is supposed to look like, or even that there is something inherently ‘natural’ to families being of this kind. 
But what is ‘nuclear’ about families, really? Are these kinds of families supposed to explode, like atoms? Are they an invention of the nuclear age? Do they look like atoms, and if so, which ones? Carbon? Oxygen? Hydrogen? Uranium? Perhaps they’ve got some nuclear energy inside, in which case they should be handled carefully, right?  If they are enriched, they can become even more unstable, and that can start the process of atomic fission, where they splinter into little particles.  In this case, they fall under George W’s special category, ‘nukular,’ remember? The famous word that egregious president could not pronounce? 
In any event, and jokes aside, the nuclear family, explosive or not, is a very recent invention.  If we consider the infinite ways in which life has become organized in order to nurture itself through time on the face of our multifarious hostess Gaia, including all of human cultures and the cultures of other species, we find out that in the history of what we may call ‘family,’ the nuclear family is really a split second. Just a blink of the eye. And not the happiest or most interesting one.
The clip explains when and why the nuclear family became prevalent. What kind of paradigm it is part of, and why this paradigm no longer serves life in general, or human life in particular.  Nothing wrong with nuclear families. They serve a purpose. But to move into a Gaian future, the whole idea of what constitutes family must be placed in a much wider horizon.
Check it out!
Yours truly hopes you enjoy the video. Please help us imagine what the video does not say. What families can we invent to met our needs? Suggestions are welcome!
Families are about love, right? So a new politics of love is also a new politics about families, right?  If you’re not sure what’s political about families, find out all about it in Gaia and the New Politics of Love.  

Namaste,

Gaia
a.k.a. Serena Anderlini
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

How the Wisdom of Love Transforms Gaia: On Being the Resources We Share

Friends keep telling me that people don’t understand what I mean.  “She uses strange words,” they say, or at least, “she uses words in a strange way.  Why does she do that? What does she really mean?”
“That’s the point,” I think to myself, very shy, very humbled, very timid, “making up new words, new phrases, using words that are unfamiliar, making familiar words sound new.”
That’s the power of words, the power of literature, if you will.  What I was trained in.  (Arhhhhhg, what a mistake to presume one can relinquish some ignorance!)
“These people,” I think, “they really want it easy.  Not only I learned their language so I can speak to them.  But then if I use words of their language that for one reason or another sound queasy, they become suspicious of me.  There’s no way to do right by them!”
“What’s this fear?”  Fear of words.  One cannot be afraid of words.  Words are NOT things.  They only represent things.  Or do they?  Can words also MAKE things?  Can they CHANGE things?  Can they affect, transform, reinterpret, create REALITY?
Of course they can. All poets are keenly aware of this. Otherwise why would they spend time playing with words? 
So, a case in point is this video clip.  From The Wisdom of Love, a double book launch Deborah Taj Anapol and me held at Open Secret Bookstore on June 22, 2010.  It’s a bit late to post.  I know.  Took a long time to figure, with us being a team of wise, wise, wise people.  So ancient is our wisdom that we’re not all that familiar with latest tech stuff for social media. But we get it eventually.  And for this clip, we owe courtesy to Steve Hoffman of Oakaland, California, who shot, cut, and reduced for us.
So, what’s the fun with words here?  Well, “RESOURCES.”  People in ecology, in environmental science talk about ‘resources,’ right?  “Limited resources.”  “Sources of energy that are ‘renewable’,” as in wind, solar, hydro: ways to create power that generate themselves again every day, that are commonly owned/shared.  That don’t involve pollution or extinction of the source when it’s most needed.  See what’s happening with the oil spill.  Easy oil is almost gone now.  And we’re ever more dependent on it.  While it’s also turning our amiable hostess Gaia into an oven.  Ouch! I’m cooking! I’m being cooked!
So then, resources is the issue, right?  Why can’t we BE the resources we seek?  Sounds Oedipal?  It is!  What happens if we begin to think of ourselves as the resources we need?  What if we begin to practice BEING resources for each other?
A whole lot!  Big shift in thinking.  Now we don’t need a lot of resources.  We need to interpret each other AS resources.  And what can we trade that is, as Stan Dale would say, “free”?  We can trade LOVE, or ‘amor,’ or ‘amore,’ or ‘amour’ as those hopelessly Romantic, romance language people would say. 
Then we see that being POLYAMOROUS, being capable, by nurture, by nature (who knows?) of trading these AMOROUS RESOURCES with a whole bunch of people is NOT a dangerous perversion, is NOT a problem, is NOT a liability, is NOT a sign of being promiscuous or a misfit.  IT IS ACTUALLY A VIRTUE!!!
Yes, you heard me.  BEING POLY IS ACTUALLY A VIRTUE!  It should be rewarded as a free recycling system, as a national forest deep-ecology biodiversity sustaining nurturing ecosystem. It should be cause for being nominated for the Nobel Prize for Peace!
“But wait a minute,” you must be saying, “is this for real?”  “Sounds like a trick to justify some wicked perversion.”
Well, I leave the final judgment to you.  It’s on the video.  Somebody in the audience at Open Secret asked “what’s the connection between Gaia the living planet and open love, open relating?”
That’s how I explained it!
Go ahead and listen . . . .
Then, if you like what you hear, you can get more info from the source of my wisdom, Gaia and the New Politics of Love.  This book was inspired by one who IS the pleasure he seeks.  Watch out for the book’s new digital edition, coming soon.  Meanwhile, get your paper version and start practicing love’s wisdom.
There will be more posts and clips.  The momentous series of events we held in Norther California in June-early July will be unfolding digitally as we post clips and snippets, with comments.
We look forward to YOUR comments too!
Namaste,
Gaia

a.k.a. Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio

http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

What’s This New Politics of Love That People Wonder About?

Could it be as simple as an ecosexual politics of love where Eros makes peace with Gaia? 
These wise women have it all figured out.  Find out from what they write and then lobby for their ideas with Obama!

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Deborah Taj Anapol, and Dossie Easton at Open Secret Bookstore in San Rafael, Ca, on July 3rd celebrating Interdependence Day as they outline the future of love on Planet Earth.

We will be back with more about this historic event where the future of love on the planet was outlines.  Meanwhile, please send us your thoughts, ideas, comments, poems, rants, plans, critiques, strategies.  What’s a new politics of love that would serve Gaia and us?  What does it look, feel, smell, taste like to you?  tell us and we will publish it on Poly Planet GAIA!
do you call yourself ‘ecosexual’?  would you date someone who does?  if yes, or no, why?

‘Ecosexual,’ the new ‘sexual orientation people use in personal ads, we learn from Annie Sprinkle, ‘sybaritic cougar,’ and participant extraordinaire.  Do you call yourself ‘ecosexual’? Would you date someone who does? If yes, or no, why?

Annie Sprinkle, Beth Stephens, Cunning Minx: more love, more wisdom! 

We will be back with more about this historic event where the future of love on the planet was outlines.  Meanwhile, please send us your thoughts, ideas, comments, poems, rants, plans, critiques, strategies.  What’s a new politics of love that would serve Gaia and us?  What does it look, feel, smell, taste like to you?  Tell us and we will publish it on Poly Planet GAIA!
And, don’t forget to look up for ‘ecosexual’ dates next time you go out!
Namaste,
Wise Woman Extraordinaire, Serena
http://polyplanet.blogspot.com

The Wisdom of Love – A Double Book Launch – June 22 – San Rafael, CA – 7 PM

Deborah Taj Anapol and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio
discuss 
The Wisdom of Love 
in their new books 
Polyamory in the 21st Century 
and 
Gaia and the New Politics of Love
in this unique double book launch 

Is the love of wisdom nothing but the wisdom of love?
What’s the future of love on planet Earth?
Why write about polyamory today? 
Two wise poly women writers answer your questions!
                                    
                                                DATE: Tuesday, June 22
                                                TIME: 7 PM
                                                Cost Per Person
                                                          $ 8   Prepaid ($ 10 at door)
                                                          $ 14 Prepaid with signed copy of Gaia
                                                Deep discounts when you treat friends!
                                                WHERE: Open Secret Bookstore 
                                                                   923 C St.
                                                                   San Rafael, CA
                            Due to limited space, RSVP early!

Great discounts when you sign up now by yourself, and with one or two friends.  Check drop down menu:

                                 


 Book Descriptions:
Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners, by Deborah Taj Anapol, provides a perceptive overview of the whole range of intimate relationships that don’t conform to our culture’s monogamous ideal but endeavor to be honest, ethical, and consensual. It addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, yet often challenging lifestyle while shedding light on the reasons people choose polyamory and how their lives have changed as a result. Drawing on recent findings from many disciplines, Polyamory in the 21st Century helps the reader comprehend the dynamics of long term open marriages as well as more tribal and fluid intimate networks and everything in between. ON SALE IN EARLY JULY!  (Rowman & Littlefield, 2010)
Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet, by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, is the first study that links global peace, health, and ecology to the sexual freedom movement and polyamory. The book presents the concept of Gaia, the live planet, as the scientific basis to argue that the arts of loving can ‘save the planet’ because they are a form of the arts of healing. Therefore, the world needs a new politics of love where sharing amorous resources is a virtue. Polyamory is the subculture where the arts of sharing these resources honestly, fairly, and compassionately can be learned. These practices can turn hatred into love, fear into hope, scarcity into abundance. (North Atlantic Books, 2009.)

Authors:

Deborah Taj Anapol, PhD, has taught psychology and human sexuality at the University of Washington in Seattle and Antioch University in San Francisco, and has led seminars on love, sex, and intimacy all over the country and around the world. She is the author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits and The Seven Natural Laws of Love.

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a professor of humanities at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez. She is the author of Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, and the editor of Plural Loves and Bisexuality and Queer Theory.  She teaches courses, workshops, and seminars on the practice of love and the science of Gaia.
Treat yourself to this event with your favorite friends!

Discount options to sign up by yourself and with one or two friends.  See drop down menu:
                                   

Memorable quotes:

“A world where it is safe to love is a world where it is safe to live.” 
Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
“Let jealousy be your teacher.” Deborah Taj Anapol, PhD
“Is the love of wisdom nothing but the wisdom of love?” Deborah Taj Anapol and Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio (from an intuition of Luce Irigaray‘s)
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In the same venue, treat yourself to a full-day workshop on July 3rd! 
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