A Plural Wedding of Ecosexual Love at Lolia Place, Big Island, Hawaii – Nov 5, 2017

Dear Earthlings–

Our practice of performing Plural Weddings of Ecosexual Love has expanded with the celebration of our union with Lolia Place Ecovillage, an intentional community and educational center in the district of Puna, south-east side of Big Island, Hawaii.  The Wedding was celebrated on November 5, 2017, at dusk, under the macadamia tree at the center of the community’s open grounds.  Some 20 very diverse participants gathered in the contact zone this center has established, to declare their love for the place.

A Plural Wedding of Ecosexual Love is a special kind of performative wedding that includes the contact zone or ecosystem upon which participants meet as a shared amorous partner.  The ceremony sacralizes the moment of union experienced by the ephemeral community that performs the practice, and symbolically transforms the ritual of matrimony into an open, inclusive one.

The ceremony is preceded by a series of three attunement practices that prepare most participants for the vows.  The practice called “Know and Love the Ecosystem Called Thyself” performs an attunement with one’s own personal ecosystem.  The practice called “Know and Love the Partner We All Share: Earth” performs an attunement with the all encompassing ecosystem called Gaia, and the four elements that characterize it: air, water, fire, earth.  The  practice called “Know and Love those Who Share this Partner with You: Humankind” attunes participants to fellow humans as “metamours,” or people with whom we already always share a partner.  The Wedding is a moment of union that synergizes the attunement process.

As Dr. SerenaGaia I view myself as a special minister for Plural Weddings of Ecosexual Love.  And I encourage communities with an affinity for this practice to invite me to perform it for them.   Much detailed descriptions are available at this link.  Perhaps a PWEL is at this time right for you and your communities?  I look forward to considering your invitations.  Thank you!

At Lolia Place Ecovillage, the sequence of attunements was embedded in a much wider event, the 1st Annual Gathering of EcosexualLove.  This five-day experience encompassed an expansive variety of practices in EcosexualLove.  The Gathering was produced by a team of four, including myself, Dr. SerenaGaia, poet Karen Hery of Portland, musician Saffire Bouchellion, and wrangler Walker O’Rourke, also of Portland.  During the Gathering, the Invocation and Vows I originally designed were collectively modified to adapt to the place.  Much gratitude goes to Walker for the research and rewording of various aspects.

Participants at the Gathering, and community members present at Lolia Place at the time, all convened together in a circle to be a part of this moment.  Lolia people included members of the leadership team, investors, interns and staff.  Gathering people included facilitators, participants, and organizers.  The ceremony started with the Invocation, read by Walker.  I pledged to read the Vows in a people’s mike form.  The circle was invited to repeat the lines and amplify their resonance across the grounds.  Everyone was able to bespeak their love for the shared amorous partner to a measure of their own comfort.

The revised Invocation and Vows are available.  Find the Invocation here.  Find the Vows here.  You are invited to enjoy and respect these documents as the emanation of a symbiotic earth that manifested through my imagination, as I came embody my sacred name of Dr. SerenaGaia.  Please let us know if we can support you in bringing the PWEL attunement process and ceremony to you.  Thank you!

The first Plural Wedding of Ecosexual Love (PWEL) was performed at Playa Azul, a “blue beach” on the west coast of Puerto Rico, on January 25, 2015.  It included a diverse group of participants from this Caribbean island and other world regions.  It was documented with the help of filmmaker Shaison Antony.  A series of photographs from that day is available at this link.  The Playa Azul PWEL is also the subject of the film Playa Azul I Love You: Together in Ecosexual Love.  You are invited to enjoy this 32-minute documentary free of charge.  Check the trailer at this link.  Playa Azul I Love You is a celebration of life in Western Puerto Rico, a region now devastated by the climate instabilities of our time, including super hurricane Maria.  Accordingly, the documentary explores the PWEL practice in the context of Gaia Theory, the science that interprets the evolution and stability of life on earth as a result of collaboration and symbiosis.  Please enjoy the film free of charge at this link.  Leave a comment to let us know what it inspires in you.  Thank you!

A PWEL is an experience of attunement to the practice of EcosexualLove for eco-sustainable communities.  The blue print of the original Wedding, and its reincarnation at Lolia Place Ecovillage, are intended to serve as a model for many others.  Please get in touch with us when you feel inspired to bring the experience to your communities.

Email serena.anderlini@gmail.com, or find Serena Anderlini of Puerto Rico on Facebook.

We will stay tuned.

Thank you!

We appreciate your listening.  Enjoy!
aka Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
Erstwhile Professor of Humanities and Cinema at UPRM
Convenor of Practices of Ecosexuality: A Symposium
Fellow at the Humanities Institute, University of Connecticut, Storrs (2012-13)
Project: “Amorous Visions: Ecosexual Perspectives on Italian Cinema”

Ecosexuality: A Course in the Arts of Conscious Loving

Ecosexuality: A Course on the Arts of Conscious LovingOnly 500 Euros until June 30!

Robert Silber, M.S., LMT and 

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD 

teaching the first completely bilingual course on ecosexuality and the art of sharing love
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Description
Do you desire an expanded community of trust, love, pleasure, intimacy, and connection? Do you wish to develop your talents as artist of love? 

We believe that love is an art, and when consciously developed, the art of love can bring creativity, joy, and peace to our lives and the world. We share our knowledge in the arts of loving and guide you to develop your own. Bringing more trust, fun, and abundance in your amorous life is good for you, for others and for the planet.

 
The course will facilitate your development as an artist of conscious love. It will enhance your potential as a resource of love for your communities and networks.

Join us for five days of exercises and activities that will stimulate your mind, body, and heart. Practice communication techniques that help you to become more present and connected with others. Experience touch and massage modalities that create trust and lead to ecstasy. Share deeply with others who resonate with your passion for truth, community and the beauty of authentic relationships. Learn to appreciate your talents for erotic expression and use them pleasurably and respectfully. Be present to your nature as a resource of love.

 
Where: Casa di Fervento – Boccioleto
Via Val Sermenza 18, Varallo (Vercelli)
When: July 16-21, 2011
Cost of Course: 500 Euros per person
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for only 500 Euros until June 30th

Full Board with
Vegetarian Option:
350 Euros, DUE ON ARRIVAL
For the fabulous cuisine of
Stella Procopio 
Mini apartments at nearby 
Residence Pineta now 
available too!

Some of the questions we will address include:How can a more conscious sensuality improve one’s sexual relationships and act as a force for more peace and justice in the world? How can our diverse talents for love and amorous expression be fully developed and appreciated? Can we live in a state of greater intimacy (not necessarily sexual intimacy) within a community and not just one other person? What role can an expanded network or community of friends who share these desires play in both individual and global development? How can we meet our needs for touch and closeness in non-sexual relationships? How can we release our emotions and speak our truth in ways that build trust, connection and create community?

You bring your unique talents. 

We support you discovering the arts of conscious love.

Shared intellectual property of 3WayKiss and Conscious Sensuality

Company to enroll?  We offer special discounts for two and three participants who enroll together! 
SPACE IS LIMITED!  Take advantage now!

Corso Ecosex – for 2 or 3

Who we are and why we teach this:
 
Robert Silber, M.S, LMT: Since entering the realm of conscious sensuality, he has studied and taught with the Network for New Culture, One Taste, Essensual Evolution (co-founder), and worked with many sacred sexuality and tantra teachers. He practices ashtanga yoga, is a licensed massage therapist, and loves to give massage incorporating the elements of lomi lomi, thai, cranial sacral and pelvic release techniques in a process that is deeply empowering and transformative.  He also provides conscious sensuality coaching via phone/email/in person.
He is a nature lover, master gardener, and was appointed by Robert Kennedy, Jr. as a Riverkeeper. He has worked in the fields of environmental activism, political organizing with Sierra Club, is a certified permaculture designer and co-founded an intentional community and environmental education center in Hawai’i.
He brings these two aspects together in the Kipuka Temple Community, where he has provided a framework of sensual living involving beautiful spaces, permaculture gardens, sustainable living, spiritual cultivation, and perhaps most importantly – a community grounded in conscious communication and intimacy building.
From this location, Robert travels to the mainland and internationally to lead workshops and events.  He is currently finishing a book on conscious sensuality, community and sustainability.
Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a writer, professor, leader, healer, and activist in the paradigm shift toward a Gaian future where humanity makes peace with our hostess planet. She is a successful coach and workshop leader working on polyamory and bisexuality issues. She believes that the Sacred Sex Movement, the Global Ecology Movement and the Holistic Health Movement are part of this paradigm shift. She is currently active in the global Polyamory, Bisexuality, Ecosexuality, and AIDS Dissidence movements and communities. Her latest book, Gaia & the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet, was released in September 2009, from North Atlantic Books, Berkeley. It is now available digitally in Kindle edition, and is a Silver Winner in Cosmology and New Science for the Nautilus Book Awards. Serena is a world class keynote speaker and workshop leader who has presented in California, Washington State, New England, the United Kingdom, and Greece. She also coaches clients on ecosexuality and relatedness issues.
Serena offers coaching sessions to participants interested in healthy, sustainable inclusive relationships.
Robert offers conscious sensuality sessions to interested participants.  
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Ecosexuality: A Course in the Arts of Conscious Loving

Ecosexuality: A Course in the Arts of Conscious Loving

What’s ecosexuality?  Just a new buzz word for vegetarian with green bed sheets?  A new sexual orientation to connect with a new-age dreamy date in a chat room?  A new theory? 

It is of course all of these–and none of them.  In this course, we propose Ecosexuality as a new style in the arts of loving that is conscious of how important these arts are in process of making peace with humanitiy’s hostess, the third planet Gaia.

Ecosexuality is a way of being sexual that’s ecological, natural, balanced, amorous, exploring, playful, inclusive, adventurous, holistic, sacred, Gaian, erotic, considerate, consensual, responsible, and healthy, all simultaneously, separately, and in different proportions.

The emphasis in the course is on teaching styles of being amorous that are also ecological.   Ecoloogy has to do with balance and proportion.  For example, if a species reproduces excessively, the balance of an ecosystem is lost.  But when all species are present in sustainable proportions, the ecosystem is healthy and whole.

There is an ecology to sexuality too.  Many paths allow lovers and amorous people to access the ecstasy, the joy, the communion, the bliss of conscious erotic love.  Some include ‘natural’ intermediaries: the ocean, the sky, the moon, mountains, lakes, rivers have all been known to inspire lovers to ecstatic bliss.  Other intermediaries are more ‘human made’: the arts, poetry, scents, foods, wines, jacuzzis, watsu pools, leather, silk, floggers, film, fetishes, videos, sex toys, and a whole assortment of other aphrodisiacs inspire people to become amorous in a variety of sexual ways and paths to erotic ecstasy.  The contemplation of other people in love and the feeling of inclusiveness that emanates therein can be a powerful erotic inspiration too. 

We believe that love is an art that can be learned consciously.  We do not make conclusive statements on that the ‘nature’ of human love can be.  However, we affirm that every person has a very special talent to love.  The intent of the course is to nurture that talent into an artistic form that graces the person and his/her amorous communities with an abundant healthy dosage of the arts of loving.

We propose a wide sampling of these arts, including elements of meditation, touch, sensuality, cuddling, massage, pleasuring, self-pleasuring, communication, mirroring, witnessing, compersion, polyamory, bi-sensuality, sexual play, bonding and domination, fetishism, sexual play, tantra, and more.  These practices are taught as styles of amorous expression that help participants develop their talents as artists of love.

The encouragement is for students to become better resources of love for their communities.  We do not encourage the formation of identities around any of these practices more than any other.  Any combination of them that develops the amorous talents of participants is ecosexual to the extent that it makes the world more abundant with resources of conscious love.

This course is a work in progress.  So far, the main areas are:
Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory
Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities
The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource of Love
Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves

Developed by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, for the intellectual property of 3WayKiss

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Workshop 1 – Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory

Workshop 1 – Compersion: The Spirit of Polyamory

In the wisdom of love, we understand that the arts of loving can save Gaia, the live planet, because they are part of the arts of healing.  A key concept in these arts is compersion, which comes from polyamory and is often understood as ‘the opposite of jealousy.’  Compersion is the joy of sharing the amorous resources that bless our lives.  It is the bliss of witnessing the love our partners receive from others than ourselves.  Jealousy often registers as a humiliating emotion.  How can this emotion transform into joy?  The 2 1/2 hour workshop is designed to teach this transformation in a series of small-group exercises that impact our inner and outer landscapes.  Compersion, the spirit of polyamory, is a vibration that animates our bodies with joy and participation, once we become familiar with the bioenergetics of this inclusive, liberating emotion.

Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD, is a professor of humanities at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez.  She is the author of Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, and the editor of numerous collections.  She teaches courses, workshops, and seminars on the practice of love and the science of Gaia.

Scheduled for July 8, 2010, in Bellingham, WA

Contact: Laya Shriaberg, laya@spiralsun.com

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Workshop 2 – Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities

Workshop 2 – Fluid Bonding and the Health/Safety of Erotic Communities

This workshop discusses how changes to fluid-bonding agreements can impact individuals in an erotic community, the community’s notification and negotiation processes, screening protocols, and reactions to disease outbreaks and breaches in agreement.  A general introduction to the topic will be followed by open discussion, with a few anecdotes to break the ice if necessary.

Why is the practice of safer sex important to an erotic community?

The protection of each participant is proportional to the health of the community.  In practicing safer sex, a participant in an erotic community protects other participants from pathogens that might be inadvertently stored in this participant’s body.  Physical safety is conducive of emotional safety too.

Fluid-bonding is the practice of exchanging deep and not-so-deep body fluids with sexual and erotic partners, and the emotional bonding that this implies.  On the pair level, fluid bonding can be viewed as a trading of risk for pleasure and intimacy.  In a given erotic community, it is more complicated; there are implications, both positive and negative, to each participant and to the community as a whole.   In general, one might say that fluid bonding contributes to the health of a community to the extent that it is based on rules that are defined quite explicitly and followed quite closely.

Workshop Design by Serena Anderlini and Murray Schechter

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Workshop 3 – The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love

Workshop 3 – The Pleasure of the Other: Becoming a Resource for Love

The ecstasy our lovers feel is proportional to our ability to experience it as our own pleasure.  When we get to access this experience our education in the arts of loving can be considered complete.  As artists of love, we will be the source of erotic ecstasy for our lovers in such sublime communion that the pleasure of the other will become our own.

As a principle of erotic/ecstatic communion, the pleasure of the other is not new.  We can read about it in Sappho, Ovid, Veronica Franco, Giacomo Casanova, and others whose love lives have been celebrated in literature.  But how can we learn to generate this pleasure in our own love lives?  This workshop is designed to provide access to this experience.

The exercise intends to initiate participants in the practice of forming a pleasure team and receiving pleasure from multiple sources.  It can be done in a conventional or clothing-optional environment.  Participants form groups of 5 to 7 people and sit on the floor in a circle.  One participant volunteers to be the ‘pleasure emitter,’ the others form the ‘pleasure team.’  The ‘pleasure emitter’ lies down at the center while members of the ‘pleasure team’ sit around in a circle.  Boundaries are set as to what areas of the ‘pleasure emitter’s’ body are open for receiving pleasure and what areas are off limits.  The pleasure team begins to focus on pleasuring the emitter.  Members will stay tuned into each other and listen for signs of pleasure from the emitter.   The emitter will express pleasure with words, moans, and body movements.  These will reverberate as feed back with the team whose members will enhance the pleasure as they respond to the expressions of the emitter.

The exercise can be repeated as many times as there are volunteer pleasure emitters in the group.  Each round lasts about 10-15 minutes.  After two or three rounds, the group will discuss the experience.  Participants will share about what it felt like to be in either position and why.  What did participants learn about pleasure?  Is the pleasure of the other better than our own? 

A group hug can be used as a closing ritual.

A workshop designed by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD

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Workshop 4 – Flogassage: The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves

Workshop 4 – Flogassage:  The Bioenergetics of Multiple Loves

Learning the Arts of Loving with Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio

This workshop combines small group massage and mild flogging to convey the bio-energetic experience of polyamory compersion, tantric energy and kundalini, and love for the person. 

Compersion is the ability to share love among three or more people.  Practicing compersion helps to transmute jealousy into the joy and elation of being present to multiple loves, to give up exclusivity, and to express pleasure and ecstasy (or being the “pleasure emitter” in a multipartnering situation

Tantric Energy & Kundalini are modes of amorous expression that enable one to give, receive, store, and transmute erotic energy throughout the body and the chakra system.  These modes are often experienced indirectly.   In this workshop we focus on the back side of the body as a place to store and transmute these energies.

Love for the person is the ability to love someone independently of their gender and sexual orientation.  Many experienced bisexuals practice this kind of love.  In this workshop we focus on changing roles within a small group, exchanging erotic energy with diverse participants, adjusting degrees of participation, and experiencing full-body erotic pleasure, to convey the experience of loving the person.

“I was fortunate to attend a flogassage organized by Serena. It was not on the agenda for the weekend, but was one of the highlights of my experience. Serena expertly set the mood and our expectations, then smoothly guided us through hours of sensual touch experiences unlike anything I had ever experienced before. She is truly gifted,” said Michael from Massachusetts.

Notes:  
This workshop is open to everyone over 18. 
It is especially recommended for massage therapists and other kinds of holistic healers interested in exploring the sensual aspects of the healing arts. 
The workshop will be held in a clothing optional environment. 
Participation in the exercises is based on consent.  Graded levels of participation are encouraged.

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Workshop 5 – Bisexuality, Self-Knowledge, and Eros

Workshop
Bisexuality, Self-Knowledge, and Eros
This workshop is designed to assist participants in becoming more aware of how bisexual cultures and lovestyles complement and integrate with Polyamory.
We open with a short poem about bisexuality by nonetheless that William Shakespeare. “Two loves I have,” from Sonnet 144.   There is nothing new to bisexuality or Polyamory, since even the bard practiced them . . .
We continue with definitions and historical perspectives about the bisexual movement, especially in the late 20th century, with a special reference to the work of the late Fritz Klein, from a psychoanalytical perspective, and Lani Kaahumanu and Loraine Hutchins, from a cultural and earth-centered perspective.  Participants will be invited to share in small groups about bisexual dreams, wishes, fantasies, and experiences. 
Next will be a practical exercise based on the Klein Grid, a bi version of the Kinsley Scale.  Participants will be invited to place themselves on this grid.  Then they will mix and mingle while they ask questions of each other as to where they best fit, so that in the end everyone will stand on the floor in correspondence to their place on the grid, to everyone’s amusement!  
Bisexuality is largely in the mind of the beholder.  Participants will play the roles of givers and receivers in small groups.  The messages will be expressed via soft touch and/or flirtatious gazing.   The givers will keep their intention secret, and the receiver will be invited to guess as to what that is.  In many cases, a non-sexual intention will be interpreted as sexual, and vice versa, to the amusement of all.
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Gaia Theory: The Scientific and Spiritual Principles


Gaia, Eros, & the Sacred:
Learning the Arts of Loving with Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio

Class # 1
Gaia Theory: The Scientific and Spiritual Principles

How does Gaia theory work?
What does it mean?
What difference does it make to us?
How can we contribute to Gaia’s joy, health, and well being?

Gaia is the scientific and spiritual principle based on which the Earth, and its biota in particular, is a living being, a web of interconnected ecosystems whose health is proportional to the health of each cell in them.  All of us human and non-human animals, plants, microbes, and minerals, are little specks of life in this all-encompassing being.  As humans, we are more complex than other Earthlings, and there fore more vulnerable.  In this symbiotic system, the health of Gaia is proportional to the health of each live element in it.  An active knowledge of Gaia theory empowers today’s humans to resolve the ecological crisis we’re in, just like an active knowledge of Heliocentrism empowered Renaissance people to resolve theirs.

Exercises for this class include meditations that connect us to our inner symbiotic ecosystems, to other Earthlings, and to our first ancestors, bacteria.

Testimonials:
“Galileo, Issac Newton, and Louis Pasteur have something in common with Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio.  Based on their own personal observations, they have had original ideas about how the world functions . . . and . . . the strength of character to . . . and communicate these ideas despite . . . the commonly accepted “truth” of their time.  The controversial ideas of Galileo, Newton and Pasteur have since been shown to be correct and have changed the way we view the world we live in.  Serena’s ideas and her strength of character in communicating them are equally important to us now,” said Pat from Carolina.

Notes: To schedule this class for your community write an email to Serena: serena.anderlini@gmail.com

This class is a body/mind educational experience
Its topic is interconnected with the two subsequent topics in the series
The class can be taken alone or as part of the series

The class includes:
a SEMINAR to delineate its major ideas (with open Q & A period) – 60 to 90 minutes a WORKSHOP to practice and experience them – additional 30-60 minutes

From the contents of Gaia and the New Politics of Love, by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009

Erotic Energy & Its Circulation in an Amorous Community


Gaia, Eros, & the Sacred:

Learning the Arts of Loving with Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio
Class # 2
Sacred Erotic Energy and its Circulation in an Amorous Community

What is sacred erotic energy?
How can we perceive it, absorb it, channel it?
What makes us part of an amorous community?
How can we contribute to its joy, health, and well being, and why is this good for us?

Eros was the god of love in ancient Greece and is often perceived as a spiritual force that pervades the material, that blows health and vitality in it, similarly to the prana, ki, and universal energy of Eastern traditions.  Erotic energy is sacred because it is part of a sacred tradition and because it denotes life, which is sacred in most belief systems.  Eros is a vital force that manifests in infinite ways and takes the form of the energy field where its presence is felt.  The ability to register this presence, to absorb and channel its energy that each of us has corresponds to the wealth we bring to our amorous and erotic communities.  Eros is what keeps Gaia alive.  The more we contribute, the more we receive.

Exercises for this class include safely giving and receiving sacred erotic energy in small groups and sharing about the experience and one’s interpretations of it.

Testimonials:
“Thank you so much for being you.  I have longed to meet another person who . . .  understands the importance of sustainability, the sharing of resources and the idea that Poly can save the planet . . . Oh, I am so happy that you exist . . . Sending you my thanks for the amazing healing under your facilitation, I am so very thankful for that gift,” said Jason from Washington State.

Notes:

To schedule this class for your community write an email to Serena: serena.anderlini@gmail.com

This class is a body/mind educational experience
Its topic is interconnected with two other topics in the series
The class can be taken alone or as part of the series

The class includes:

a SEMINAR to delineate its major ideas (with open Q & A period) – 60 to 90 minutes
a WORKSHOP to practice and experience them – additional 30-60 minutes
From the contents of Gaia and the New Politics of Love, by Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009.
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