EcoSex Docu Trailer – Playa Azul I Love You – The Fun of Marrying a Caribbean Beach

It turns out so many people are still very curious about #Ecosexuality and #EcosexualLove. Here’s a fun way to get closer to that.

Today we offer a trailer of Playa Azul I Love You, the film that documents the first Plural Wedding of Ecosexual Love in Puerto Rico.

For the first time on YouTube, and complete with subtitles in English and/or Italian!

Welcome to this teaser. Enjoy it while we also prepare the premiere of the full movie, also for the first time of YouTube, with subtitles in English and/or Italian.

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The Resilience of Love Online – A Sequence of Three Workshops

The Resilience of Love Online is a sequence of three online workshops designed to guide people into appreciating crises as opportunities for deep emotional change.

Opportunities for:

  • Making love the ecology of one’s life
  • Becoming a source of positive energies
  • Co-creating more health and happiness on a global scale

This synergistic creation by Dr. SerenaGaia brings together a wide range of elements to offer tools that can manifest deep transformation in one’s ability to appreciate crises as opportunities for positive evolutionary change.

Workshop # 1, Your Ecosystem, Yourself focuses on supporting people in co-creating a positive energy field in one’s inner ecosystem. This workshop is based on wisdoms and practices from the Tao, as taught by Tao Master Mantak Chia at Tao Garden, including the Inner Smile and the Water Wheel. It helps people envision their own body/mind/spirit as a personal ecosystem made of symbiotic elements connected with Earthly elements and planetary forces. By knowing and loving their own personal ecosystem, people they are empowered to generate more health and happiness for themselves.

This workshop can be done on Zoom. Participants will need an open space around themselves, to stand up and move their arms and legs.

Time requirement: 90 minutes to 2 hours.

Workshop # 2, Deep Listening and Empathic Circles, initiates people to the practice of Deep Listening while holding and participating in Empathic Circles. This workshop is based on wisdom and practices from Native American cultures, and in particular, the Circle Way, by Native American elder and New Age philosopher Manitonquat. The practice of deep listening really helps people stay emotionally connected, and, when combined with the Circle Way, it helps people feel equally present and respected, so they practice trusting and becoming expressed as they connect with their own deeper emotions and those of others.

This workshop can be done on Zoom. Participants will need a private space from where to share with others in the circle. A very stable connection and a digital device that enables good facial visualization are also important.

Time requirement: 90 minutes to 2 hours.

Workshop # 3, Exploring Your Online Erotic Consent, initiates people in the arts of consent, including connecting with their own boundaries, preferences, pleasures, and communicating in clear and considerate ways. This workshop is based on wisdom and practices from the Wheel of Consent, by renown North-American sex-positive educator Betty Martin. It references the four quadrants, the roles of giver, receiver, allower, and taker, the arts of negotiating agreements within the human realm. The workshop places these tools in the wider context of listening to, and becoming aware of how to practice consent with all forms of life on the living Earth. Participants attend online from different stations. Exercises emphasize sensual touch with favorite objects and oneself. They focus on visual and auditory pleasures, on exchanging gazes and vocal expressions. Participants are invited to consider the force of Eros generated by these consensual exchanges and how it may impact life at large beyond the human realm.

This workshop is designed for Zoom. Participants need a private space from where to connect and practice in consensual ways. They need a very stable connection and a digital device that supports good facial and body visualizations.

Time requirements: 90 minutes to 2 hours.

Notes:

  • Each workshop is a self-standing element, as the sequence also builds on each of its elements.
  • Workshop # 3 is recommended for people with some experience in sex-positive education.
  • SerenaGaia feels that her own wisdom and experience as a sex-positive educator are manifest in this sequence.
  • Elements in this series are also based on wisdoms and practices from significant traditions world-wide, including the Tao, the Circle Way, and North-American Sex-Positive education.
  • Teachers and sources are honored and acknowledged in the most considerate and respectful ways.

Interested in activating and co-creating this sequence and any single workshop per se, and/or as part of a project online? Please do not hesitate to contact us. We look forward to co-creating with you. Thank you!

Can we answer any questions? Please do not hesitate to contact us. We look forward to serving you in your journey of #EcosexualLove. Enjoy!

aka Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
Erstwhile Professor of Humanities and Cinema at UPRM Convenor of Practices of Ecosexuality: A Symposium

Author of Multiple Books Website Serenagaia.org Contact: serena.anderlini@gmail.com, + 39 329 477 9406. Teacher of Humanities Online Series – Modern History for the Humanities and Love ResearchGate Profile

Academia.edu Profile
LinkedIn Profile
Fellow at the Humanities Institute, University of Connecticut, Storrs (2012-13) Project: “Amorous Visions: Ecosexual Perspectives on Italian Cinema”
#alchimiadellamoreecosessuale  #alchemyofecosexuallove  #drserenagaia

When a Sex Positive World Is Coming to You – Save Your Dates: Oct 18, Nov 8, 15 – Thank you!

How can we transform this recurring crisis into a new amazing opportunity?
Thanks to SPW–Sex-Positive World–we can all do it together. The arts of love begin when we appreciate sensuality, sexuality, pleasure.
We offer a sequence of three successive appointments on Sundays, 19-21:30 CEST (that’s 10am-12:30pm PST–do the math if you’re in between and anywhere else, or ask google!)
We invite you to save the dates:
18 October, 8 and 15 Nov.
Stay tuned. All detailed info below.
Thank you!
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Hi Everyone–this is Karen Hery and Dr. SerenaGaia speaking to you!

At Sex Positive World we are excited about upcoming events that are probably of interest to you!

Thanks to our new friend Covid-19, people around the globe have become familiar with online conferencing–that is Zoom. Many of us already feel that our health and happiness get along better when we feel connected to a sex-positive community. Others might be ready to discover what all this is and become passionate about it. More time and more of a need to seek sex positive community connections are around us, as people’s availability, needs, and locations are shifting.

That’s where our offers come in!

We are super happy to be a part of helping all of us, wherever we live and wherever we each are in our sex positive journeys, to have options for caring and sharing and evolving. This alongside a wonderful opportunity to meet sex-positive people from around the world.

What is sex positivity? Well . . . to some of you it may sound as if it’s a bit like being positive for some strange disease. And, we can assure you, it’s NOT that. It’s actually a VERY GOOD THING. We mean, it’s good for you!

Event # 1, Oct 18, 19:00-21:30 CET. Orientation Time! To make everyone feel they can confidently step in, our kick-off offer is a Sex Positive World Universal Orientation. Join us and lots of other sex positive people from a number of SPW community chapters, for this Orientation tour. On Sunday, October 18.

Choose your own optional donation and sign up at this link: https://www.sexpositiveworld.com/event-details/orientation-2

The first hour will be an overview offered by our community leaders, a ride through who we all are together, why we choose sex-positivity and what it brings to our lives.

During the second hour people will connect with others in their countries and language regions, as a way to socialize together in smaller, more personal, breakout groups. As Dr. SerenaGaia, I’m delighted to host the social group based in  Europe. I am happy to run the conversation in whatever language(s) prevail in the group, and will welcome translation assistants. Please contact me.

Thank you!

Event # 2, Nov 8, 19:00-21:30 CET. Time for Boundaries! What’s a boundary and how will it help you to find yours from within? Boundaries are what  makes it possible for people to play it safe in life, and in amorous, romantic, and sexual relationships. Covid has brought new flavors to our sense of boundaries, creating more complexities and opening up some new possibilities.

Our International Covid-Informed Awesome Boundaries class is a space to gather in community to share and care about how to continually up our boundary seeing and setting skills. We had over 50 attendees the first time we offered it. We’re doing it all again and I am so happy to share the experience with you and anyone 21 and older that you’d like to invite. Healthy boundaries are great in all areas of life, so people can attend from inside and outside Sex Positive communities.

Choose your own optional donation and sign up at this link: https://www.sexpositiveworld.com/event-details/covid-informed-awesome-boundaries-2

Please share links to both Event # 1 and Event # 2 from the Sex Positive World website with people in your life you think will appreciate them.

Thank you!

Event # 3, Nov 15, 20:00-21:30 CET. Time for Erotic Moves and Grooves!

Yes, at SPW we find ways to make our online sex positive events connective, truly sexy and fun. It’s a challenge we love to meet. Our very first higher level will be Erotic Moves and Grooves – an All Gender Chair Dancing Class and Show with Java, a very talented world traveler.

Whether you’d be delighted to come primarily to dance or to watch . . . or a combination of the two . . . everyone is welcome to limber up together on the chair and we each choose our own adventure from there . . .

You might like to chair dance for private pleasure and/or for public display. Java will break down the finer points of chair dancing and teach a group routine you can choose to take home and play with. Or you can bust a groove on screen at the end for us all.

We celebrate consensual voyeurism as a valuable part of a sex positive life. While dance class is going on, there will also be a healthy voyeurism group empowered with tips from professional erotic dancers. What are good ways to share a respectful gaze? How can you become more aware of what visually pleases you and negotiate with others about this?

This event is open to people who have attended Event # 1 (Orientation), and Event # 2 (Boundaries), and to people who already are Level 2 in a Sex Positive community chapter.

So we recommend you join the entire sequence, starting with Event # 1, on October 18. If you’ve attended Boundaries and The Wheel of Consent in the Resilience of Love with Dr. SerenaGaia, please indicate and we will consider.

Thank you!

For Erotic Moves and Grooves, please RSVP here: https://www.sexpositiveworld.com/event-details/erotic-moves-and-grooves-level-2-spw-event. The event link will be sent once Sex Positive World has confirmed that you have met the pre-requisites.

Thank you!

In these pandemic times, everyone’s circumstances are unique. SPW events typically offer many options, so we can all be included in these sex positive journey together. Available options include: moneyless access, pay-what-you-can access, full-price ticket, and extra funder ticket. All good wishes in finding the options that work well for you!

Please get in touch with us you have any event questions. We also welcome ideas and suggestions on how to best keep us all connected during these changing and challenging times. Keep us posted and stay tuned!

Thank you!

Dr. SerenaGaia and Karen Hery, Director of SPW

dr.serenagaia@gmail.com, serena.anderlini@gmail.com, + 39 3294779406 (whatsapp), Serena Anderlini of Puerto Rico, on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Messenger, @serenagaia on Twitter. Thank you!

aka Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
Erstwhile Professor of Humanities and Cinema at UPRM
Convenor of Practices of Ecosexuality: A Symposium
Author of Multiple Books
Contact: serena.anderlini@gmail.com, + 39 329 477 9406.
Academia.edu Profile
LinkedIn Profile
Fellow at the Humanities Institute, University of Connecticut, Storrs (2012-13)
Project: “Amorous Visions: Ecosexual Perspectives on Italian Cinema”

Opening up to Health and Happiness: Awareness, Safety, and Care in Covid Times

What is safety and what does it look like in Covid times? How can we self-source the safety we desire to be caring and aware of ourselves and those around us? How can we share responsibilities for the community awareness we all desire? How can we converge this energy in the in-person events in which we choose to participate?

These questions are probably on your mind as we all open up to being part of events in-presence this summer.

At the School of Ecosexual Love we feel inspired to offer a perspective that we feel is both responsible and empowering, and includes a framework for thinking about them, a list of sources, and some specific guidelines.

We understand you are considering participating in one of our in-presence events in the 2020 summer. We kindly ask that you become familiar with our perspective and ask yourself how well you can align with it. Please feel free to respond and comment. Thank you!

Reflections

For those of us in The Resilience of Love, the online journey that started back in March, we have practiced sourcing happiness and health from within ourselves in many ways. These include the expanded Inner Smile, to cultivate our inner balance and well being, the Wheel of Consent, to become aware of our boundaries and of where we position ourselves in a given interpersonal exchange, and more. We’ve also become aware of how the more simple life required by a quarantine can have its own beauty and happiness, for ourselves, and for all forms of life that accompany us on this journey on planet Earth, including animals, plants, and other ecosystems that benefit from a cleaner environment.

As options for meeting in person with others become more open, and as we choose to respect required practices of public health, we may want to elaborate together a notion of safety that we can all consent to, and that involves practices in which we each take responsibility for ourselves and for those impacted by our behavior.

Rather than accepting the master narrative that outsources “safety” to a hypothetical vaccine and asserts this as the only way to restore the “normalcy” that has been, we propose to imagine a “new normalcy” where the source of safety is in in the empowered awareness that resides within each and everyone of us.  This “new normal” can be co-created and, I dare say, can even be fun!

The “new normal” we propose here is a dynamic strategy to access the kind of self-sourced safety that comes from the eclectic perspective of #EcosexualLove. It navigates the explorable waters between the two main current thought collectives in relation to public and personal health: the allopathic collective, that interprets diseases as “enemies,” and the holistic collective, that interprets diseases as “messages” that call our attention to some need for change.

Sometimes these collectives are also envisioned as, the one made of supposedly powerful people who “conspire” to deceive common folks, and the one made of those who willingly listen to whistleblowers adept in theorizing what these conspiracies might be all about. While it’s important to be conscious observers willing to listen to a wide array of sources that can be contrasting with one another, especially when many unknowns are still in play, it is also known that excessive attention to “conspiracy theories” and to “conspiring” can produce worries and inner imbalances that are not always useful and can often be undesirable.

We propose a healthier and happier alternative: listening deeply to ourselves. We believe that, from within ourselves, we can summon the courage of sourcing the measure of “safety” we need to get together and trust one another. As a collective, we can become more aware of how we exist symbiotically in relation to each other. As we practice personal responsibility, we contribute to the sense of safety of others. This confidence and trust can generate the freedom we all need to source courage in these not quite post Covid times. It can converge health and happiness into the journey we will share at Suncave Garden.

Sourcing Safety

Where does safety reside? It’s an important question to address for anyone wishing to join an event in presence at this time when a significant pandemic has scoured the planet. Here are some of the healthy ways to position “safety” that we, at The School of Ecosexual Love, intend to propose.

      1. Safety resides in our inherent ability to activate the competence of our immune systems by taking good care of our personal ecosystem.
      2. Safety resides in our sense of personal responsibility in containing exposure and thus minimizing risk for ourselves.
      3. Safety resides in our sense of collective responsibility in being accountable for our contacts to those who share a germicule with us, and for being willing participants in any necessary contact tracing. (A “germicule” is a household or group of people who have been Covid bonded during quarantine time.)
      4. Safety resides in our awareness of existing cures, in our trust in our competence in researching them and making them known and accessible, while still refraining from interpreting the existence of these cures as excuses to overlook the need for risk containment.
      5. Safety resides in our ability to stand in a place of confidence in the curability of the Covid-19 desease, while realizing that in practice this may not happen overnight for everyone.
      6. Safety resides in our ability to be models in overcoming the fear of death that a presumed incurability disseminates.
      7. Safety resides in our ability to say “NO” to any invitation to an activity in a journey, activity in which we don’t feel fully prepared to participate at the time when the invitation is made.
      8. Safety resides in our ability to choose social distancing during an in-presence event, to the extent that we feel so inclined, and, to choose to shorten distances on as as-we-go basis with participants who also, by consent, feel so inclined.
      9. Safety resides in our choice to bring a tent to sleep or book a single room if we choose to isolate during sleep hours, and to consume our meals away from others if that’s what we desire.
      10. Safety resides in our commitment to be totally non-judgmental of our own decisions in these regards, and of those of others.
      11. Safety resides in our willingness to be inspired by the miracles that this symbiotic new normal can create.

Questions for you. How do these ways to self-sourced safety resonate with you? How many of them are you willing to practice? Do you feel inspired about them? Do you feel they align well enough with your philosophy and practices of health?

Addressing these questions well ahead of time offers everyone a chance to reflect on what we propose and evolve a deeper alignment and sense of trust in your own ability to self-source your own sense of safety and to care about that of others. Enjoy the empowerment this brings up!

Thank you!

Guidelines

The next in-person event we are co-creating is the Alchemy of Ecosexual Love, which will happen at Suncave Garden, August 28-30. The lush, fertile, nature of this garden is healthy and vibrant with fruiting plants, and water-based amenities like pool and jacuzzi. Our hosts, Leslie and Hoppy, are excited to be there for us and offer their Casa Vacanze home style hospitality. It will be a small event to have more space for everyone, with all activities in open-air spaces except for sleep time. The exceptional Italian style cooking of the house is based on locally grown products, with luscious meals and beverages offered in the décor of a blooming garden.

This seems to us an ideal place to practice self-sourced safety with awareness and care for others. The sources that empower groups safety are reflected in the following guidelines we propose for the event:

      1. Monitoring our health in the period immediately prior to the event, and being cognizant of any symptoms that might arise. For example, monitoring one’s temperature if one feels it might have gone up.
      2. Minimizing one’s exposure to risks in the two weeks prior to the event, so as to also minimize the amount of risk each person brings to the collective of participants.
      3. Being accountable about our participation in a presential event that might involve touch with those people who share a germicule with us and are not coming, so that they might respond and protect themselves to the extent that feels necessary to them.
      4. Remembering that Covid consent, namely the choice of shortening distances or not doing so, is negotiated as we go like any other consent.
      5. Being willing to take responsibility for making our own choices and for respecting those of others.
      6. Being aware that at any time during the journey together, we each can choose to shorten our distance from others and/or to practice social distancing, to the extent that it is possible and practical.
      7. Being aware that, if one requires isolation for sleep time, reserving a single room and/or bringing one’s own tent is advisable. Suncave Garden has limited space and we may not have a single room for everyone. The garden is wide and is spacious enough to consume meals at various distances from one another.

Finding a consensus on these guidelines will greatly empower your facilitation team and hosts to offer an ideal context where to open up to health and happiness in Covid times. We hope that you resonate with these guidelines and we invite you to take them into your heart. We ask that you accept them agreement upon which the whole group will come together in safety and trust.

Can you please confirm your alignment with this agreement and can you please let us know in writing? You can email your response to serena.anderlini@gmail.com. A simple message on WhatsApp will also work, please send to +39 329 4779406. Please make sure you clearly refer to the document “Opening Up to Health and Happiness.” Thank you!

Welcome to The Alchemy of Ecosexual Love, August 28-30 at Suncave Garden. We have a few spaces left and, unless you’ve already claimed a spot, we invite you to do so by paying the very modest course fee of € 127 now. If you’ve saved a spot and are no longer interested in coming, please let us know so we can save it for another person and send you a refund. Thank you!

If you have a ticket to the course, this is a perfect time to choose your favorite accommodation! Please see the venue map and prices. Thank you!

Please Note: Room and full board will be due in cash at your arrival at Suncave Garden.

Daily prices in full board per person run asfo. Single room or double room used as single: € 85. Double room and multiple room with reduced occupancy: € 70. Tent (not provided): € 65. The weekend journey includes 2 nights with breakfast, and 4 main meals, for a total of 2 days in full board, starting with dinner on Friday, the 28th.

The venue is available to guests who wish to stay extra days at the same conditions, and many of us on the team are planning to stay. If you can, you’re welcome to book extra days now!

Thank you all for being inspired by opening up to health and happiness in Covid times!

Preparation

Thank you for reading so far. The world has changed as a result of this pandemic. And we believe there is a chance for positive evolution in every crisis.

We understand that deciding to participate might involve a process of preparation that includes spiritual, organizational, and practical aspects. We are offering two online meetings on Zoom, on two Thursdays in August, the 6th and the 20th, 4-6 PM Central European Time. These meetings are designed to address any practical or energetic questions you, as a participant, might have.

Please join us on these meetings. We intend to listen to your questions and assuage all doubts. Thank you!

For those who choose to stay at Suncave Garden after the 30th, private sessions might be possible based on practitioners’ availability. Please contact them now! Thank you! There may also be a chance to experiment with beta testing the Symbiosis course, a course we plan to launch in the near future. The beautiful hills and gardens, the naturist pool and jacuzzi, the healthy foods will be there to enjoy for your happiness and health and share with others! We hope many of you will make that choice with us. The same daily rates as for the weekend will apply. Please do let us know of your interest in this option asap, so that our hostess may save a seat for you. Thank you!

Happy deciding! We are confident you will make the best decision for you at this time. We look forward to your confirmation that you resonate with and agree to the proposed guidelines. We are excited to host you at the preparation meetings in August we have designed.

And finally, we are eager to share the journey of The Alchemy of Ecosexual Love with you at enchanting Suncave Garden.

Welcome to the School of Ecosexual Love.

Can we answer any questions? Please do not hesitate to contact us. We look forward to serving you in your journey of #EcosexualLove. Enjoy!
aka Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD

Erstwhile Professor of Humanities and Cinema at UPRM Convenor of Practices of Ecosexuality: A Symposium, Author of Multiple Books, Website Serenagaia.org

Contact: serena.anderlini@gmail.com, + 39 329 477 9406

Teacher of Humanities Online Series – Modern History for the Humanities and Love ResearchGate Profile, Academia.edu Profile, LinkedIn Profile

Fellow at the Humanities Institute, University of Connecticut, Storrs (2012-13), Project: “Amorous Visions: Ecosexual Perspectives on Italian Cinema”

Note: The content of this article was designed in late June, 2020, by Dr. SerenaGaia, with contributions by Tanya Rozenthal and Adi Ananda. Its content is the basis for activating in-presence events for the 2020 summer with the School of Ecosexual Love.

 

Bonobo Coaching – Sustainable Paths to Ecosexual Love

Bonobo Coaching – Sustainable Paths to Ecosexual Love

A Coaching Practice by Dr. SerenaGaia

Are you ready to embrace the Earth as your partner, as the partner you share with fellow humans an all other forms of life.

Ecosexual love is the style of love that reaches beyond genders, numbers, orientations, ages, races, origins, species, and even biological realms, to embrace all of life as a partner with equal rights.

This style of love is based on four principles and the alchemy of their related practices.

  • Know and love the ecosystem called thyself.
  • Know and love the temple of the other
  • Know and love the partner we all share: the Earth
  • Know and love those who share this partner with you: Humankind

These practices apply basic principles from Tao, Tantra, amorous inclusiveness (aka polyamory), and sexual fluidity (aka bisexuality).

When you train in these practices, you are ready to become an artivist of love. Artivists of love are beings capable of generating all the love they need and then some. They aspire to align their own health and happiness with each other, and with the health and happiness of all beings that form the ecosystems that impact them.

Artivists of love are beings of light who often manifest alchemies of ecosexual love that create balanced symbiotic connections all around.

If you envision yourself in this horizon, if you wish to practice love expansively, if you aspire to become an artivist of such expansive love, you can benefit from attending a series of weekly meetings that Dr. SerenaGaia offers online. One is known as The Resilience of Love.

Dr. SerenaGaia’s personal coaching sessions can support you in integrating your learning process with your experience and personality and in pursuing your aspirations further.

Her presential courses will resume when possible, and they include the Alchemy of Ecosexual love, and The Symbiosis of Ecosexual love.

If you are longing for transformations in your life that will empower you to navigate a given crisis and envision the symbiotic opportunities it brings to your life, you can start now.

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Here are some questions that you might have already considered:

Are you longing for expansive ways to practice love that also support your natural sense of honesty and integrity? Do you sometimes experience monogamy as a social norm that curbs your natural capacity to express yourself as a being capable of love? Do you experience a natural desire to share yourself widely as a resource of love? Would you like to experience a natural sense of fluidity, inclusiveness, and elation when others share themselves in these capacities as well? Have you thought of what exclusivity means to you, and in what kinds of contexts you would like to experience it?

If some of these questions resonate with you, you are not alone, and you came to the right place.

The desire to practice inclusive styles of love is pervasive today.  In the age of Gaia, humankind is becoming more aware of the symbiotic nature of existence as beings who share a planet and a world. Many people are now aware of planet Earth as a generous partner and hostess. We all share this partner we love, and so when we consider sharing our resources of love in generous and inclusive ways, we know that we also honor her.

Loving fluidly and inclusively is ecosexual! Exclusivity is wonderful as long as it is an agreed upon choice in romantic, amorous, collaborative, and/or sexual aspects of any relatedness. People’s belief in the social norm of monogamy is eroding, in the context of problematic experiences in conventional marriages.  Many of us make the intentional choice to love the person, not the gender, and to espouse feminine and masculine principles within ourselves. As more scientific evidence becomes available, it becomes apparent that monogamous and monosexual behavior in humans result from culture rather than nature. At this time of accelerated change and transformation, hearts and minds connect in the noosphere and cultural notions of evolution are revisited, as people search for more symbiotic ways to relate within and around ourselves. However, not many people know how to navigate the transition from exclusivity to fluidity and inclusiveness in balanced, sustainable, compassionate ways.

Bonobo Coaching opens paths to styles of fluid and inclusive love that are gradual, balanced, and sustainable for all those emotionally involved.  Your coach, Serena, has successfully transitioned to a rich personal life of amorous inclusiveness where relationships sustain each other in balanced and graceful ways.  She has studied inclusive styles of love like polyamory and bisexuality for over two decades.  She has practiced amorous inclusiveness at various levels for about three decades.  She is the founder of the School of Ecosexual Love.  She is a scholar in the arts of healing and loving, and a supporter of the Gaia Hypothesis. She is the author of several books on these interrelated subject, and has offered workshops and coaching sessions worldwide.  She can coach in English, Français, Italiano, and Español.  She is fluent and formally trained in these four languages.

Bonobos are one of the most amorous and peaceful species Gaia, our hostess planet, has ever seen.  They use grooming, cuddling, nurturing, pleasure, sexual fluidity, and amorous inclusiveness to resolve conflicts and to enhance social cohesion.  They are the primate species genetically closest to humans.  Bonobo Coaching is a style of coaching designed to sustain us humans in activating the virtues of our genetic kinship with Bonobos and put them to beneficial use.

When not freely chosen, exclusivity can be asphyxiating.  In the transition from exclusivity to expansive amorous inclusiveness, Serena has made all the mistakes.  However, she never allowed a mistake to kick her back into asphyxiation.  What matters about mistakes is the interpretation.  In offering coaching sessions, Serena promises to sustain you in interpreting each mistake as an opportunity to learn and move one step forward on the path to the expansive amorous inclusiveness and fluidity you heart and mind aspire to.

FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions:

Q: What is coaching? How does it differ from therapy?

A: Coaching is a way to develop through a confidential dialog with a person whose wisdom and experience one trusts. This dialog intends to help one move beyond an emotional place where one feels stuck due to societal and conventional limitations, when these fall short in appreciating one’s multiple capacities and talents for love. Coaching is for people who are well. It does not intend to cure any condition. However, it does intend to sustain one in developing one’s unique talents for love.

Q: What can coaching do for me if I’m seeking to develop an inclusive style of love?

A: Inclusive love is a way of love that expands beyond the mono paradigms typical of Western cultures in the modern world: monosexuality and monogamy. Its basic premise is that love is an art whose conscious practice helps people develop their basic talents as amorous persons, and become more abundant resources of love for their communities and life as a whole.

Q: How can I get some coaching?

In general, Dr. SerenaGaia prefers to offer coaching sessions to people who have already followed and participated in one or more of her journeys, either in-presence, or online, or both. In fact, in these contexts it is easier to get to know each other in a preliminary way and to establish trust and contact. If you have already met Dr. SerenaGaia in one of these contexts, do not hesitate to contact her for one or several coaching sessions, either in-presence and online. Write to dr.serenagaia@gmail.com, or send a message on WhatsApp to +39 329 4779406. You are super welcome *. Thank you!

If you have not yet had the opportunity to attend an event led by Dr. SerenaGaia, you can request a preliminary interview with her by email or phone. In response to your request, a short preliminary assessment interview may be arranged. If Dr. SerenaGaia feels that her coaching can support you in your desire to move forward on the path of inclusive love, she will make a coaching appointment with you. Enjoy the adventure of transformation and bon courage!

Coaching can often produce results in one to four sessions. Coaching sessions can last from one to two hours each, organic time. The cost is $ 80 per hour per person. You are invited to pay your sessions in advance, by bank transfer or by Pay Pal.

For a payment on Pay Pal, use the address serena.anderlini@gmail.com. You can send what you need as a money to friends, and add a note to specify what it is for. Thanks!

If you prefer to make a bank transfer, you can use this international account:
Serena Anderlini – IBAN: DE97 7001 1110 6052 5144 00 – BIC / SWIFT DEKTDE7GXXX – Adddress: Handelsbank, Elsenheimer Str. 41, Munchen 80687 Germany.
Be that as it may, send a payment only AFTER your first coaching appointment has been scheduled. Thanks!

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Q: What kinds of coaching sessions are available?

A: Coaching sessions are available in presence, when possible, and especially during and after presential courses. See also The Garden of Pleasures. They are also possible long distance, on zoom.

Coaching sessions can be individual or with two or more participants. Typically, participants are involved in some shared love practices. Each participant is evaluated individually before coaching can start. The hourly cost of a multiple session is established according to the needs of the group or dyad. It is usually less than separate individual sessions.

Q: Are seminars also offered?

A: Yes. Dr. SerenaGaia offers a series of seminars on Ecosexual Love, including The Resilience of Love, which is offered online, The Alchemy of Ecosexual Love, which is offered on an annual basis in Suncave Garden, nearby of Rome, Italy, in the summer, and The Symbiosis of Ecosexual Love, which is a new program in the process of being launched. Go to the Calendar tab and / or click on the links for details about events that are now scheduled.

Q: How can I bring a journey with Dr. SerenaGaia to my community?

A: Journeys are available on the basis of the request from already formed groups and communities. A minimum of 15 participants is required, plus a venue with comfortable and adequate activity space, and a local person in charge of the organization. One day, one weekend, or one-week journeys can be considered, according to the experiences and needs of the community in play. The cost of participation varies around $ 60 (€ 55) per day, to which costs must be added for the venue, meals and accommodation. It is always important that the person organizing contact Dr. SerenaGaia or one of the people in her team well in advance and with a well thought out event plan. Let’s wait to hear all the beautiful proposals that will arrive! Thanks!

Q: How can I reach Dr. SerenaGaia to book some of her services?

A: At the end of this blogpost you will find all contact by phone (WhatsApp) and by email. Make sure you clearly indicate Bonobo Coaching as the motivation for your message. Thanks! You can also connect on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Remember that Serena Anderlini’s Facebook profile has maxed out on friends. We invite you to like the Dr. SerenaGaia page. Welcome to our network! Thanks!

Works Consulted
  • Anapol, Deborah. Polyamory in the 21st Century. New York: Rowman & Littlefield, 2010.
  • Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Serena. Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet. Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2009.
  • Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves. New York: Routledge, 2006.
  • Consiglio, Carlo. L’Amore con più partner. Rome: Pioda, 2009.
  • Fisher, Helen. Why We Love? The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love. New York: Holt, 2004.
  • Fromm, Erich. The Art of Loving. New York: Harper Perennial, 2006 (first published in German in 1956).
  • Kingma, Daphne Rose. The Future of Love. New York: Main Street Books, 1999.
  • Coming Apart: Why Relationships End. New York: Conari Press, 2000.
  • Millenson, Jock, ed. Liberating Love: Readings from the German Meiga Communities. Aberystwyth: Cambrian, 2007.
  • Robins, Suzann. Exploring Intimacy: Cultivating Healthy Relationships. New York: Rowman & Littlefield, 2010,
  • Ryan, Christopher and Cacilda Jetha. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality. New York: Harper, 2010.

Acknowledgment:
The name “Bonobo Coaching” came up in a conversation with multiple friends, and in particular Murray Schechter. His sense of humor always gives me joy. I am grateful.

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For more information and for scheduling, contact Dr. SerenaGaia asfo

dr.serenagaia@gmail.com, serena.anderlini@gmail.com, + 39 3294779406 (whatsapp), Serena Anderlini of Puerto Rico, on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Messenger, @serenagaia on Twitter. Thank you!

aka Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, PhD
Erstwhile Professor of Humanities and Cinema at UPRM
Convenor of Practices of Ecosexuality: A Symposium
Author of Multiple Books
Contact: serena.anderlini@gmail.com, + 39 329 477 9406.
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Fellow at the Humanities Institute, University of Connecticut, Storrs (2012-13)
Project: “Amorous Visions: Ecosexual Perspectives on Italian Cinema”

 

POLYAMORY: Married and Dating – May This Show Bring More Love to the Better Worlds We Desire

While living here in the Portland area, I’ve finally had a chance to watch the two full seasons of Polyamory: Married and Dating, the show that brings the spotlight on three polyamorous families and their beautiful, adventurous, explorative, and sometimes challenging lives.

It’s been a real pleasure to watch the show in the company of my housemates, who are also involved in the local sex-positive culture. We’ve had time to compare notes, discuss, and reflect on how the experiences of these models compare to the experiences of each of our lives. What kind of dynamics are likely to occur when one engages in styles of love that are beyond binaries, that are more expansive in the ways they engage with inclusiveness in our amorous lives?

Personally, I’ve enjoyed many aspects of this series, in both seasons. Including the settings in two areas of Southern California where I’ve lived very significant chapters of my life. Riverside, where I did my graduate studies in the 1980s at UCR, while i held the job of teaching basic Italian that one of the Season #1 protagonists also holds (coincidence?!) And San Diego, where in the 1990s I actively participated in the Bisexual Forum founded by two avatars of bisexuality, Fritz Klein and Regina Reinhardt. In my experience, San Diego is a city of community, cafe life, holistic health, and warm jacuzzis where people become soft, mellow and amorous as to almost seem to melt into one another.

I’m not at all surprised that it’s been home to the four people in the quad whose interlocking lives are at the center of the show’s narrative. I also like the sense of expanded tribe that emanates from this narrative, especially in Season # 2, where one can also observe characters evolve and even switch roles at times. It’s amazing how places, locations, and one’s experiences in them, are powerful in shaping the narratives of our lives. And in creating legacies, traditions, seeds that eventually evolve, have a life of their own, and expand. West Hollywood is the setting for the Season # 2 triad, and it’s also well rendered as an ecosystem that really holds the characters. I do realize that any reality show, when well done, is also, to some extent, fictionalized. And yet, I feel very strongly that there is authenticity in the narratives, settings, and characters. I feel that people have really put themselves on the line to be who they are, at least to the extent that that’s possible when one invites a Hollywood camera into one’s private life.

One aspect I’ve really appreciated in the show’s structure is the quick asides that interrupt the narrative sequence to help viewers pry into the inner life of each character. What is this person feeling at this moment? What desire, anxiety, motivation, concern is motivating their action? How is their mind, their heart responding to the reality they are experiencing at this time. These asides are quick enough that one returns easily to the narrative. And they are also poignant enough that they provide, with the insights into the characters, also a beautiful way to get a sense of the philosophical gist of polyamory, of what reflections, principles, and intellectual awareness characterize this lifestyle and the communities where it is practiced. The decision to use asides this way has a long tradition in literature, especially in the English language, where of course it was widely used by the Bard, another voice whose tones resonate strongly with sexual fluidity and amorous inclusiveness alike.

Another aspect I’ve appreciated is the integration of sensual, erotic, and sexual scenes into the overarching narrative. Yes. That’s the way life is, right? “Life” is not divided in “genres” (as in erotica vs fiction), as some entertainment production systems would have us believe. “Life,” real life I mean, is actually one integrated narrative. There our minds, our hearts, our yonis, our lingams, and all the different symbiotic parts that make up our beings speak their truth, and manifest the reality we co-create with others. So, yes, I do appreciate that in this show we are taken into the bedrooms, the jacuzzis, the retreats, the play parties where people who love each other experience amorous existence. And where, from this experience they evolve and transform as partners in their relational lives.

This was exactly one of my goals when told the story of a very significant period in my life, especially my San Diego years, in the 1990s. I wanted the intellectual, the emotional, and the erotic aspects of my experience at that time to be synergized into one narrative. it was a way to offer a story that made sense and was beautiful and empowering to those wishing to be brave enough to read and be inspired. This memoir, Eros, was a Lambda finalist in 2006, when fist published with the subtitle A Journey of Multiple Loves. A new edition is now in the works, in both English and Italian, with the new subtitle, The Wisdom of Love. There I’ve fast forwarded to 2020 to really celebrate more fully the experiences in my life that make it part of the communities where amorous inclusiveness and sexual fluidity are practiced. Yes, love is good for you when practiced as an art, and the more you practice the more you learn about it and can share with others.

And this can happen over the arch of one’s entire life! One thing I wish to see more of when Polyamory or other reality shows of this kind resume, is a wider diversity in the age of the story’s protagonists. What about sexy grandmothers? Perhaps that’s another taboo to break up?

Here I really want to congratulate the brave director and the whole very brave and generous cast for this gift to the world. A gift that empowers people to practice love more expansively and evolve as their ability to generate this energy and channel it also expands. I do wish for a world where these gifts are appreciated and where they do their job of opening up options for others. I feel happy and proud of my part in co-creating this world with my own small contributions. And I wish everyone in the show a beautiful future of many decades where the magic of love manifests in many forms to bring health, happiness, and abundance to their lives.

Thanks Michael McClure​, KamalaDevi McClure​, Reclaiming Walker O’Rourke​, Roxanne DePalma​, Rachel Rickards​, and many others. May your generosity to the better world we all want and imagine be rewarded. You are wonderful and i love you!